Michael Wilkins

Hi mate,

I only heard today of your struggle and frankly couldn’t believe it. How could someone so bulletproof be struck down by such an insidious disease? But then of course I remembered something you told me about why you started the RUOK campaign – bad things can happen to anybody.

I remember the last time we met we had a few beers in that French joint in Surry Hills. It was funny, poignant and I had met a bloke without a shred of self-doubt. I’m reminded of a quote and think your travels through life have been governed by such words: “The path of least resistance leads to a place called mediocrity. Those with courage seldom travel it.”

I wish you and your family the best mate. If you want to try the restorative climate of North Queensland give me a call. I’ve got a room with a view and a cold one on ice.

Wilko

Joseph Talcott

Gavin

Nearly three years ago you came to see Campbell and me about R U OK? Day. And now we’re just a few days away from the third R U OK? Day in Australia. Its success is truly a tribute to your vision and tenacity. I think you should know that although we haven’t had our regular chats about how things are going and how we could do more, Nina and the the team have certainly kept that tradition alive! There is no question that R U OK? Day 2011 will be the biggest and best yet. It is simply remarkable to see something go from an idea to a national event of immense proportion in such a short time. I hope you are very proud, not only of the organisation but of the difference it is making in the lives of people who are asked “Are you OK?”, and those who do the asking.

And now, about you:

You've told me that we must live each day, fully. And we must leave rationalisation attempts behind. I remember when you said “sometimes you can’t look for a reason that something happens...it just is".

Whilst I understand that on an intellectual basis, I still think the current "is" is bloody awful!

Gavin, you have been an inspiration to me. And not just after you got sick. Since we first met I have admired your drive, commitment, energy, common sense, persistence, good humour, and sense of fairness. I count myself very fortunate to have crossed paths with you, however briefly.

Thank you for making a difference in my life.

Kate Joseph

To my old/new friend LA Gav,

We met in the back bar of will & toby's. You were not long home from the bright lights of LA. Back to sprinkle some Gav magic on our shores. And joy in my jaegermeister you were! You spoke of your amazing love for maz and your love and wonder for your kids. You were an inspiration for the great love I now have with my Adam and our new baby Coco Jude.

When my brother passed, you wrote me the most wonderful letter. So kind and knowing and such a comfort in our dark days. I have kept your letter. The light slowly returned as you said it would and it now shines bright my friend. Thank you.

I send you a shower of healing white light angel Gav and wish much love to you, maz, Gus, josie and van

Kj xx (Kate Joseph)

David Howarth

Dear Gav,

It's has certainly been a while, and thought a blast from the past is in order!!

I hope my recounts give you a cracka of a smile and rekindle's the memory stick with some of the great times we had as young kids playing at Stanley Street or Saywell, making cubby houses in one of the rooms from chairs turned upside down covered with sheets and blankets, or swimming in the above ground pool. Playing cricket or footy in the backyard (or lounge room), and the good old "dress up box"!!!!! cowboys and indians or cops and robbers. And who could forget the countless rock shows or plays we all used to put on????

Boy, how time flies!!

How bout the convoy of bikes, scooters, skate-boards (or pogo stick if need be..) to transport us all to the corner shop for twenty cents worth of mixed lollies from Beryl, and without fail many a journey ended in a stack or two! (Go the scabbed knees and elbows!). How bout the late nights when just before bedtime we'd all decide to play the all time favourite.... "murder in the dark" and scare the crap out of ourselves. Then there were the Saturday mornings in pj's, sitting in bean bags with a bowl of coco-pops, watching the super flying fun show with miss marilyn, cartoons et al. BBQ's at Saywell street and your mum's famous spag bol! Thug - the dog, Clancy of the overflow, Tasha, yo-yo's, tree house, etcha-sketch, slinkies, GI-Joe, wacky races, and of course Sunday footy... it's just endless.

"Are we there yet?"... Remember the trip to Talbingo in your mum's Fiat wagon? I sure do.. there was you and Aya (Del hadn't hit the scene yet), Bob and I, Mozzie and Auntie Shirl. It seemed such a long drive with the famous catch phrase uttered every 10 minutes. It was bloody cold, but we kids were all lucky to get warm by swimming (and bombing each other) in the magical thermal pool (all that steam rising out from it - spooky stuff) and waking up in the freezing mornings and peeking out the window into what seemed a never-ending bushland to glimpse kangaroo's breathing heavy morning air, quietly sitting, watching and looking straight back at you! And trout fishing, not catching much but we were there together and having a great time. (Yes photos attached).

So you were born in a leap year!! Hmmm.. as a kid I thought it weird you only having one birthday every four years and what about the parties??? Well, your mum and dad sure made up for that!! You had the coolest of cool parties, however I think a fave was the one at Luna Park. Picture it.. the Big Dipper.. I was sitting next to your dad (you and Aya in front of us in the very first carriage), and as we were approaching the the big one, I was holding on to the railing so tight, eyes shut and holding my breath till blue, you guys had your hands in the air and screaming with laughter, then as we came over the peak into the down run, I let go of my hands and smashed my nose into the railing.. what a ride! After many, many rides later and filled up with pluto pups, fairy floss and coke we all decided to hit the Rotor for one last spin! Picture it.. the rubber door was sealed, everyone standing along the wall as the Rotor began to spin, the floor gave way and so did my stomach.. that poor person next to me stuck to the wall spinning, spinning covered in chuck chunda... what a ride! Anyhow, back to that leap year.. come on fess up, just how young are you?

Well, as a purveyor of family photos, I felt it my duty to slip in a few classics that I hope again bring both a smile and terrific memory to life for you. I treasure these and hope you will too!

Now down to the serious business.. I am deeply saddened to hear of your illness Gav and although not seeing you for some years, and as I read through these amazingly humorous and heartfelt blogs, I feel privileged to have been given a glimpse into your later life, a life that is a pure testament and inspiration to us all on how to live, which in turn has enriched all people around you. I'm thinking of you and your family now and always and wish you every best.

Thanks for the memories cousin Gav! God Bless and love you always.

- Dave

Mark Lucas and Fiona Gallagher

Hey Gav

From reading the blog you have touched so many peoples lives and are so loved. You have led a fat, juicy, generous life. Your achievements speak for themselves. You leave having given so much more than you have taken. The three jewels of your life Gus, Josie and Van are such gorgeous kids. I remember them from when they were really little and they are such a tribute to you and Maryanne. Speaking of whom- love you Maz. You are a wonderful, courageous woman. I remember when we first met you out the front of your house at Eastbourne Ave and I was struck by how gorgeous you both were and then got to know that this beauty was not just on the outside but you both were such beautiful people on the inside too. I think of you Gav and all I see is a big warm welcoming smile. Your generous spirit leaves our world a better place. Please guys, know that you are all in our prayers and thoughts at this unbelievably difficult time. If there is any thing we can do to make the load a little lighter, don't hesitate to let us know.

Love Fiona, Mark, Hugh and Liam Lucas

Neil Johnston

Dear Gav

Just wanted to thank you for being such a huge inspiration while I've known you.

Your confidence, courage and thoughtfulness have been things I've tried to emulate. You helped me up a few times when I was down and were always willing to listen and give advice.

I actually doubt I would be where I am now if I weren't for you. Your suggestion to try Landmark was a real turning point for me, and it gave me the confidence and determination to follow my dreams and make things happen for myself. I'm now a copywriter and am loving my job, so thank you.

You've always been an inspirational leader and what you achieved with RUOK Day is incredible. The fact that you did all that whilst coping with illness makes it all the more extraordinary, and makes me proud to have known you.

All my love to you and your family.

Neil

Darren Schaeffer

Hey Gav,

Mate it’s been too long, but the word has spread. I can’t begin to describe what I feel or how often you and the family pop up in my thoughts. Judging by the sheer volume posts and how positive they are I feel like that it has all been said - so eloquently, and so worthy.

The last time we saw each other it was for the briefest moment as I passed you in the foyer of the Ogilvy offices in Christie St. It was my second day on the job after a 10 year absence from the fold, and it was great to see your familiar face. We signalled that we needed to catch up, but as life would have it, we haven’t been afforded the time.

If we did meet now, the conversation probably would not revolve around our time at Singo’s. It wouldn’t be about our touch football prowess and your ability to get that huge frame through the smallest of gaps. Nor would it be about our Saturday morning exercise regime with boxing, Bondi sand runs and the dreaded Coogee stairs. And to speak of that loose behaviour (of which you freely encouraged), that would see the emergence of the ‘White Man Overbite’ on the dance floor would be trivial in such circumstances. Or would it? When I think about it, reflecting on this, and that triumphant victory over Roger Eaton and Greg Creed we had in doubles tennis, or all of those times I had to pay for your coffee after my continual losing streak when ‘rocking’ you for the privilege, I find some comfort in that. See that’s the thing mate. I’ve read some of the posts and as sad as this time is, having read some from the old crew it lifts me up, and I hope it does you too.

Your strength is admirable, your leadership incontestable and your charisma, magnetic. That big smile on your shaven head provides warmth for all those in your company, and to be in your company as a colleague and a friend is a privilege. Know that you have influenced my life and have a hold a big place in my heart for you and the family at this time. If I am in Sydney again soon I might bring coffee – but you’ll have to rock me for it first!

Keep up the fight Gav. I know that you know no other way, but I’m saying it anyway. Keep up the fight mate.

All my love to Maz and the kids.

Darren

Hamish McLennan

Dear Gav (and Maz),

I heard from Ashton, who was asking for any funny old photograph of you that we could dig up. We found this one which shows you wearing a typically understated shirt-hilarious !!! Gav, when you joined Y&R you made such a difference to our office with your brilliant leadership and high energy. There was never a dull moment, the staff loved you and I’ll always be grateful for what you did for us during those frenetic days.

My enduring memory of you is you constantly chatting about your family and how proud you were of them all . I’m sure they are as proud of you now and your wonderful legacy.

My best wishes to you all.

Hamish

Clare Baker

Hey Gavin and Maz

Thinking so much of you both, your children whom I haven't had the fortune to meet but am sure are as amazing as their parents and the wider Larkin/Vaughn clan.

Gavin, for a significant part of my early 20's you were like another brother to me. Always big, strong, solid, secure and comforting. Rock-like. You always had a funny nickname for me when our paths crossed and stupidly now, I can't think what they were - Clunk or Clunker (noice!) or something similar, may have been one. For some reason I always very formally called you by your full name 'Gavin' but often referred to you as 'Big Gav'.

You and Maz did then and I know still do now, make an amazing team - confident, positive, generous - whose love, power and energy goes beyond the physical. Your kids are blessed to have this combined spirit in them and I hope it helps to give them some strength in the face of this most difficult and incomprehensible situation.

It has been such a while since I've properly seen you and thank the stars that I did see you, albeit briefly, at the Skunkhour Sydney reunion gig. You hadn't changed that I could see except for a shinier head (not unlike your big brother and your dad and making an even closer family resemblance!). Your smile as always was huge and beaming - you were having so much fun and clearly proud of your brothers. You were fully enjoying the moment.

They say no man is an island and your organisation, RUOK?, helps us to remember this. We need people around us, in good times and in bad. Having people around us to support, help and care for us can help to make a bad time, maybe not always good but certainly, better. It is beautiful and inspiring hearing of all the love, support and care you have around you now and reassuring to know that your loved ones will have special people around them to love, support and care for them when you are not able.

Maz, take care of yourself and all my thoughts are with you.

Rest easy Gavin/Big Gav. I am glad and proud to have known you and to have had you for that short while, as another brother in my world.

Love,

Clare

Leon Saunders

Dear Gav,Maz, Gus Josie,Van, and all your family,

We just wanted to touch base and say how much we are thinking of you all at this truly difficult time. We send you lots love .

I don't know what to say except that you are constantly with us .

Lots Love P&L

Marie and Dick Persson

Dear Gav

Dick and I want you to know that your presence on this earth has made a difference to our lives and to the lives of so many people who have met and known you.You have made an indelible mark and will always be remembered as someone who lived life to the fullest, cared for your beautiful family, made those around you laugh and faced the greatest battles with incredible courage and quiet determination. Because of you the sun will shine a little brighter, the wine taste a little better, the sea bluer, the snow softer and the jokes funnier. So many people are thinking of you right now. We hope you can feel the love all around you.

xxxx

Tony Dass

I've been reading the blog since day 1

I baulk then ignore , I think then ignore again

I dwell in my own thoughts, I daydream and I wonder

I try and feel what you are feeling, then wallow in my own feelings of inadequacy

I try and relate but know I could never be where you are

You are loved and cared for

Would it be the same if it were me

But this is not about me

It’s about your wife, your children

Your brothers, your mother, your sister, your fathers

Your friends, your mates

It’s about your way, your genuine smile

Your manner and your sincerity

Your achievements and the affect you have

How you share and how you disagree

It's about you

You make not made a difference

You’re the one who cares while at the same time you don't

You make not made a difference

I’d like to think you’re ok and my mate will be ok and Maz will be ok and everything will be ok

Gav, right now I don’t know what to say

So I just tapped on the keyboard and this is what came out

I’m confused about what I feel when I think about it and you and stuff

So I’m gonna just speak from my heart and don’t give a damn what people think

Gav, you done good... in so, so many ways...

You're a champion

Jo-Anne Pitt

Gav,

I've foolishly been holding off, waiting to think of something really cool & witty to write. One of the many things I've always admired about you is your ability to find the right things to say at all occasions. I wish I had your talent! So I need to get a few words down now rather than be perfect, which I'm not ....

I still remember the first day I met you - over on the north shore - I think I was about 6 & was in total adoration of the "big boy". I spent the whole day trying to get your attention and I must have succeeded... I wound up heading home with a bruise on my arm from where you pinched me. Man, I must have been a pain in the @rse!

Later, I admit to curiously sneaking into your room in O'Dowd St when you weren't around. I guess I was still in adoration of "the Bear". Don't worry Gav, I wont tell anyone about what I found. ;-p

Then you bought the amazing Maz into our lives. What follows from there is your wonderful family ... I saw another side of you. Not only are you the charismatic Gav, you are the consummate father and role model to your three gorgeous children. I smile to myself when I hear Josie make a "Gav" statement.

I continued to admire you, Gav & think of you everytime I hear someone say "ruok"

Lots of love,

Jo Pitt & family

xxxx

Kathy Ellsmore

I first met you when I was 6 when you were born and from what I was told by my sister, she said that I had thought she had given birth to a Chinese baby. My next recollection of you was when I lived with you at Stanley St and you loved to collect things. One of them being Cicadas and you would climb the trees in search of them had ice cream containers full of them. I never realised that when you put your mind to something that you believed in that you went with it with such gusto. Especially "Are you okay" campaign in which you have made so many people aware of looking out for those you care about. You have put in place a legacy that will live on and you will always be remembered.

The Nearnies

Gav and Maz were the first locals we met arriving in Oz 6 years ago - we thought we were pretty lucky landing a beach house on Eastbourne Avenue in Clovelly, but getting you guys as next door neighbours was a real result. Your friendship gave us a huge welcome and is one of the reasons we are still here. Gav, you gave us our first barbie advice “no charcoal mate” as you calmly roasted two chickens on your six burner, with a beer in hand entertaining all of us without spilling a drop. After many beers you told me it was ok to pee in your garden.....so I did, Fiona still hasn’t forgiven me.

We were only next door neighbours for a year, but looking back it seems much longer than that. We have fond memories of hopping over the fence to join your family gatherings ... especially when Maz had the tablecloth and tea pot out! Van was just 2 weeks old and Josie would come over to tidy up our house(!). The clearest memory though is you, hat on, great tunes playing, newspaper open grabbing a bit of “quiet time” looking out to sea - with the usual family mayhem in the background. That was the Aussie lifestyle we came to seek and there you were living it!

When you moved into ‘Coogee Towers’ we were sad to lose you as neighbours but Kylie’s old tv show was corny yet accurate .... “that’s when good neighbours become good friends”.

We have watched Josie “jump”, Gus and Van grow up alongside Max and Jess - you are our adopted Aussie family and always will be.

Our love with you and yours, forever

Simon, Fiona, Jessica, Max x

Louise Woodbury

Hi Gav

On Thursday we received the first copies of our new book and William & I want YOU to know that you and your spirit are alive and well and will touch many people. We thank you for your guidance and support. You got us clear and became our unreasonable friend on this project.

As I scan the Contents page there are three chapters that are dedicated to you:

Chapter Five: Being Unstoppable in the Face of Fear

Chapter Seven: Be Inspiring

Chapter Nine: Making a Difference

We cannot thank you enough for being our unreasonable friend and providing us with the insights about how to live courageously, inspirationally and to ensure our life’s work is focused on what we can do for others!

You always have, and always will be, the essence and spirit of: being unstoppable, being an inspiration and making a difference.

Lots of love and wishing you the most amazing day today! We continue to be grateful to have you and Maryanne in our lives.

Louise & William

Mark Billson

Gav,

There are so many people thinking of you right now in so many different time zones throughout the world.

What I know of you has been mainly through our times together on the golf course at the Classic. Much of why it is a classic is down to you and all the photos and video footage. I remember vividly your second jacket......mainly because it was you and me in the play-off at Hope Island. Nugget recalled how you won it from the bush....I remember it a bit differently......

I teed off first, feeling nervous having never been in contention for the jacket before. I duly sprayed my ball right (an ugly high cut!) and into the crap....You then teed up, everyone thinking this is Gav's jacket. You went driver even though you all you had to do was put it in play....You lined it up and let it rip.....you pulled it seriously left...tiger country. What a couple of choppers!! We pulled out another ball each. Unfazed, you then played a flawless hole to win in a canter.

This said a lot about you as a golfer but also a person. Why play safe when you can give it a red hot go.....you tackle every challenge with guts, creativity, enthusiasm and determination, not to forget humour. It shows through with your family, your career choices, RUOK, and the classic. Its why you are so successful.

I will always remember your advice to me on ordering a tequila......"not the cheap s**t.....only the top shelf"!

You are off the top shelf, Gav.

You and your family are in our thoughts every day.

Much love

Billo

The Rattrays

Gav,

I don’t see you all that often…..the golf weekend and maybe the odd xmas lunch….but when I do see you we always seem to have a great time. I have heaps of great memories of you. Winning the shield together was a highlight.I remember the golf weekend when you won the jacket and, as is customary, you wore the jacket and tie to the pub that evening. I remember some likely, local lads,full of piss, said “check out the homo in the jacket and tie”. I thought ‘hello….it could get ugly here’ and placed my schooner on the bar ready for things to heat up. The next thing I know…..the local lads have changed their tune and all backed down. I immediately asked you what you said to them and you replied “nothing….I just smiled at them”.It was then that you showed me your dental plate and your missing front teeth….I certainly didn’t blame the local lads for backing down…..you are one scary, ugly Murray Farquar without your front teeth!

I feel very honored to have won the Leura shield with you and what a win it was….thank god for the back 9. I also feel honored to be a fellow green jacket winner. You have been such a huge part of the golf weekend….I will miss you greatly every year in May. Kate and I think of you, Maz and the kids often. The courage and spirit you have all shown through the past couple of years is extraordinary. Good luck mate…..Ratters and Kate

Ray Barton

Dear Gavin

When I first met you, and since, I have been impressed with your enthusiasm and get up and go attitude that has always been an essential part of you.

From my eyes, and as time passed, there is another part of you that I have admired even more – your love and attention to Maryanne, Gus , Josie and Van.

Go easily Gav, in the knowledge you are a good man – your legacy is with your beautiful family.

Love Ray

Jenny and Des Bassett

Dear Ones

It was great to catch up with your darling Mum and Jeff, when they visited us on their trip to WA (even though we hadn't seen them for a while they are the sort of people that you pick up with where you left off) also meeting Brian and Irene - we connected with them straight away. They are so interesting and great fun. Gavin.... Alex and Kelsey in their messages to you related to the Baileys you consumed as a 14 year old. If your Mum reads any of these tales, she will think that Jenny condoned her kids drinking under-aged.

We have fond memories of your visits with your Dad, Aya and Danny, then as a grown man with your beautiful wife Maz who I loved on sight, and your lovely little son Gus. Our hearts and thoughts are with you always.

Love Jenny and Des xxxxx

Nick Souter

Hi Gav,

Even though we worked together only briefly, I want to add my name to the many others who have been touched by your life.

It would be easy to characterise you as 'A Good Bloke', a very Australian thing to say. And it's true. You are great company - interested and interesting, good fun, easy manner and easy sense of humour. You're a pleasure to be with.

But, you are a great deal more than that. You are a truly good person.

In our various meetings, occasional lunch and beers together, I found you to be an inspiring example of someone who could maintain strict personal values in the murky world of corporate life - always honest, always focused on what was right for the situation and not for yourself, fair and loyal to the people who worked with and for you, encouraging, optimistic and never cynical. And caring.

You're a shining light, Gav. You set a fine example of how people should behave in the role you chose.

I'm thinking of you and send you my hopes and best wishes.

Nick

James Hayes

Hi Gav,

I am just back from a couple of weeks in Hawaii and as I walked around Waikiki memories of the 2009 TLC came flooding back. Some of those memories sent a shiver down my spine but most brought a big smile to my face including sharing a few cold schooies with you. Needless to say there wouldn't have been a Hawaii roadtrip for the Buffaloes if the weight of your personality wasn't applied to that outcome. You cajoled and convinced everyone that the 20th anniversary of 'the tour' had to be celebrated in style and only Hawaii would do. But your contribution extended well beyond getting us all on a plane - the video you put together celebrating 20 years of TLC history , the Jackets you arranged for the past winners, and above all the 'joie de vivre' you displayed on and off the golf course. So all in all you were the heart and soul of a fantastic event, and you created lifelong memories of good times and reinforced old mateships.

But the 2009 TLC is just a tiny example of how you have approached your life. I know the same character and ardour has been brought to bear on your professional endeavours, your friendships, the brilliant RU OK initiative, your massive battle with cancer, and most importantly your family.

So whilst we are all angry and confused and sad at the moment, the indelible mark you've imprinted on us wont contain anything but happiness and joy and great affection.

Much love Mate

Hayso

Jane Basset

Hi Coogee Bear

I bet you haven’t heard that nick-name in a while. Al and I didn’t get to see you as much we would have liked, being the other end of the country and all, but we always have extremely fond memories of when you Aya, and Del used to stay with us in Perth. I remember Alex and I were really excited to meet these cousins from Sydney that we had never seen before. We sure did have some fun. I remember we were around ten or eleven and were on strict instructions to go to bed while the folks were out to dinner. But no, you dared us all to stay up and watch a B-Grade horror flick called “The Robe”. We were all ended up having to sleep in the same room with the torch under the bedcovers. In the middle of the night, we heard a noise and peeked out the door of the room to investigate. By coincidence Barry was walking around the house at 1am in the darkness with a long red towel around his waist, which happened to be the same colour as “The Robe”. I just remember us all screaming like banshees and bashing into each other in the dark as we ran around in circles trying to escape from the “The Robe”. Barry went ape at all the noise we were making.

You also introduced us to that game of champions, Dutch Ovens... The object of the game was to see who is the first person to pass out. You challenged me to a game while Alex and Danny looked on in horror. You declared yourself the winner, but I distinctly remember making your eyes roll back in your head…but you wouldn’t admit it. Dutch Ovens was just the beginning for you it seems, as a person with great tenacity you went onto bigger challenges and refused to let things knock you down.

A lot of people say “Life is too Short” and people always have regrets of what they should have done and should have said……. but the thing is Life is Enduring and you will always have fond memories that bring a smile to your face, or there is always someone that you have influenced in some way who will pick up where you left off…… and so it goes on.

I couldn’t find any photos of when we were younger, but here is a photo of me and my new husband Daren, Alex and a friend of ours.

Take care, and all the best to Maz and the kids xxxxx

Chris and Mel Sims

Dear Gav,

the Zoot family arrived today in Zagreb, Croatia.. we are halfway through our European vacation. ( bit like the Griswald's.. I feel more like Clark every day!). We have conquered London, Brugge, Brussels, Amsterdam, Berlin, Vienna, and are now heading south as far as Dubrovnik, before turning west and heading back eventually to France for the start of the school year.

I'm not sure if you have ever done much travelling with kids..I find it frustrating...I have to constantly remind myself that I have to see the world through their eyes, not mine..As a result, we see very little Rembrandt, but a mighty lot of ice cream and souvenir shops, where in the latter they appear to be obsessed with key rings.. Why this should be so.. is completely beyond me, as none of them have any keys! Yet every town we enter, they make a beeline for the first souvenir shop they find... and we proceed to buy more and more key rings. I think my wife has something to do with it all as she tells me they will have a collection at the end of the trip.. All I can see is that I will wake up one day and all my keys will be gone.. artfully disengaged by skilful little fingers, and distributed on to their prized key ring collection.

Reading your blog, I've been touched by the words and thoughts of so many people from all over the world. One of the postings I read turned out to be from my next door neighbour in St. Ives, John Giro, who knows you through RUOK. Some would say that's an amazing co-incidence, but I rather suspect it says more about the huge number of people who you've either helped, or call you a mate.

I'd like to say thankyou for being a huge part of the tour for over 20 years.. The memories are very special. A huge thankyou for all your work in organising the Hawaii tour, it was a fantastic tour that I will never forget, particularly that gorilla of a course where I lost the shield.. Koolau..a beautiful approach from Dick, only a metre short of the green.. but drilled oh so deep into that soft yellow sand..

You will live on in my memory, and in others.. in check pants, timing the ball to perfection, with a magnificent follow through..You have played the game of life very well Gav Larkin. I hope one day, to be as good a dad as you have been to your family.

All my thoughts and love are with you and your family at this time.

Zoot.

Lucie Janouskova

“You are about to meet this great, handsome, funny, and very, very, very (!) smart bloke!!”

I still remember this sentence David told me before meeting you for the first time in your Brandshop office in 2007. When I was walking down the little streets in Paddington, instead of focusing onwhat I needed to talk about at the meeting, the sentence was playing on a loop in my head, over and over again… (luckily I knew enough of Aussie slang to understand what ‘bloke’ meant).

Minutes later I understood that David was right, indeed.

This meeting, which resulted in introduction to your creative director and recommendation to Yello brand design, was a door for me to get my first job in Australia in the industry I wanted and it got me the important working visa so that I could stay in Oz with beloved David. I was always very grateful for the advice you gave me then. Not just about the branding industry, which was the purpose of the meeting, but more importantly, about really working hard and deserving great results, and having the willpower to achieve what one believes in and desires.

I remembered it many times since, each time I needed to add a little humbleness into my attitude (this resulted in way too many overtimes but hey, the job was well done!) and also when I needed moreINSPIRATION. I think this would be for me the word that describes you, Gav – an inspiring person. I have seen you on several occasions during my time in Sydney, and although our chats were usually quite brief (as everybody wanted to speak to you so kept jumping in!), it was obvious that you truly are an inspiring husband, inspiring father, inspiring friend and inspiring boss.

When I lived with David, we always talked of you with high regards. In fact, the first time I heard of Gavin was when I still lived in Prague, Dave was on the phone to me, raving about the Brandshop summer party with people all dressed in white! I knew about Gav, his awesome wife Maz (and their friends Wags and Stu) long before I arrived to Oz. It meant nothing to me at the time and I admit, only later on I understood that you guys certainly were worth mentioning to someone on the other side of the globe.

That is where I am now; back in Prague. The difference is, I now know Gav and his loving wife. So I now speak to my European friends about you and I am the one to say “Gav, that great, handsome, funny, and very, very, very (!) smart bloke!!” I speak to people about some Aussie guy, whose inspiration has no boundaries and is not limited by time...

I feel terribly sorry for what you and your family are going through, and my prayers are with you, Maz, the kids, the whole family and friends. I send you all a virtual, but very sincere hug. God bless you all.

Thank you Gavin.

Lucie, Prague

Kelsey Bonnell

Hi Gav,

I heard you were going home soon.......too soon for all our liking. We've missed out on getting to know our cousins who lived in the east. We do have fond memories though of whenever you guys visited. My mum (Colleen) always had a soft spot for your dad and talked a lot about his visits when they were all younger. From reading all the blogs, you and your family are very cherished and very loved, which can only be a reflection of who you are as people. My brother Scott passed away two years ago and we didn't get a chance to say goodbye, so I feel blessed that I am able to send you and your family our love.

Okay now the photos..... I dragged them up from the vault and you will be please to know that not only does this prove your had hair, style, grace (and are you under-age drinking?) but the real good news is volley's are back !!! Your brother's don't miss out on the fashion parade either ! If you look closely at the group photo you can see your good self (of course), Del, Aya and Baz right at the back.

Gav you are in our thoughts mate, love Kelsey xxx

Michelle Wood

gav

i hope you truly understand what a shiny light you are

i hope you are comfortable and at peace

i hope you have no regrets

i hope you are soaking up all the love being thrown your way

i hope you know that you have gifted the world with your presence

i hope for miracles

i hope you know i love you

xoxox

mich

Breezey and Stackey

Dear Gav,

I have always admired you in so many ways, especially when the Vaughans/Larkins have a family dinner. You know how big and noisy they can be where you have to put your hand up just to say something. But not you Gav, you always captivate everyone with your charisma,spirit, humour and stories. You hold everyone's attention in the palm of your hand and make everyone feel as if you are just talking to them one on one.

Over the last 13 years Gav, I have seen you blossom into the most amazing Farther I have seen . I see so much of you in Josie especially, Josie and you are like two peas in a pod. The spirit you both share is amazing/beautiful.

We love you gave, You have included Mum and I in your family and I cant thank you enough.

Mum and I think of you everyday.

Love

Breezey and Stackey

Vicki Aristidopoulos

Gav,

You are fierce. One of the most emotive people I have ever met. The rawness and the passion you inject in everything you say and do inspires action. There’s no in-between, it’s full throttle with you Gav.

Every conversation was intense and it mattered. Forget banal chit chat, it’s straight to the heart. Gav you’re a fighter. I applaud your courage. You’ve taught me to fight for what I believe in and that’s lead us to have so many great and heated debates. Fire in the belly stuff. Always I will be grateful for those debates, they taught me so much. You are gracious in defeat and it would be fair to say that you don’t mind a little attention and praise when you do win.

And boy, do you like to win. Gav, the outpouring of love, stories and sentiments I have read shows how much you’ve won. A winner in the hearts and minds of so many people who are touched by your friendship, your ability to cut through and make a difference.

R U Ok. What an amazing movement you started. A revolution inspired through your courage and openness to share your experience with the world and make a difference in the lives of so many.

I smile thinking how much I always loved your gossip girl moments in the corridor of the agency playing cupid with all the single people. Genuinely hoping they would find true love and the depth of friendship you share with the love of your life Maz.

You’re in my thoughts, now and always.

Vicki

Veronica Webber

Hi Gav - it's Ronny ;-)

You seem to consume my thoughts these days Gav, from the time I open my eyes to the last thought of the day.

We haven't spent a lot of time together in the past in deep & meaningful's or even general conversation one on one mainly because when we've come together we are usually surrounded by our big family/s.

It's times like now that the true value of family (& friends) really comes home eh?

The last time we met up was at Leigh's 30th on the roof at Bondi on a balmy spring afternoon, remember? That afternoon I had an overwhelming urge to give you a big hug & I'm sure you were asking yourself "what is crazy Ronny on?"!! Looking back I'm am so glad I gave into that urge. It was just so good to see you that day looking your old self plus beer in hand after the rugged months of treatment prior.

It meant an awful lot to me when you & Maz flew up for John's funeral. I also realised at that time the loss you had experienced with your dad Gav. Well you can be sure he would be extremely proud of you & of all your amazing achievements & especially your role as a dedicated & loving husband & dad to your gorgeous Maz, Gus, Josie & Van. It will be family & friends loving & supporting them into the future.

We all have our journey's to travel in this life. I'm very grateful that mine included you!

Love you Gav

Ronny xo

P.S. Still feel bad about your poor bonsai I managed to kill!!

Stu Gregor

I was going to start with something along the lines that this is hard to write but the sheer ineptitude of writing that would be breathtaking, this is not hard, its letters on a keyboard – what you guys are going through is hard.

I’ve long fancied myself as a writer, it comes easy, wine columns in seven minutes was my speciality – I distinctly remember Gav coming over to my place five or six years ago when I was putting together one of my last wine guides and seeing his eyes light up at the 150 odd bottles of wine opened and ready for his consumption. Like a kid in a candy store – and I swear to god he took 50 bottles back with him in the car – right now I’m hoping he didn’t drive but I’m sure he did.

I’m not Gav’s oldest mate or his best mate, circumstances dictate that those relationships are formed much earlier than when we met but I am a good mate and like everyone else at the moment feeling confusion, despair and anger in equal measure. It’s just shit what you, Maz, Gus and the family have been forced to endure, its just so bloody hard to see what good will come from this. RUOK is I suppose a beacon of hope, an initiative so important, so so valuable and it just seems so bloody incongruous that this was created at the edge of this horrible medical precipice. But long may it survive and prosper. What a wonderful legacy.

If RUOK has any single message it’s for blokes like us to share our feelings, to be prepared to be vulnerable and to really give a shit about our mates. It’s hard . . but it’s really not that hard.

So I guess Gav might teach us to be better blokes, he is a good enough bloke himself but to leave a society more aware and more caring is a legacy to which we could all aspire but most will not reach. Like many of us blokes I will miss Gav at lunch, Gav on the golf course, Gav offering forthright, no-nonsense opinions on EVERYTHING, Gav watching the footy, Gav on the drink. I don’t know much about Gav the father or Gav the husband but their hearts must be breaking. The Gregor family sends all its love and affection.

Stu, Sal, Aud and George.

Ben Atuell

Hey Gav, you were my new friend at a new school.. it was 1982 and we were instant close mates, 14 / 15. You knew all the girls names, had them rated, and made up merciless names for almost everyone (I was mockingly "Action Man" or "a Spokesmodel"). Too much cryingly funny stuff to mention: your insane impression of winning an Olympic walking race: powering to the line, double pumping overhead claim at the finish; in a "Happy Days" moment we double dated the Wood twins (hi Dani and Michelle); you bought me a fully laminated "licence to get high" (where did you get that?) complete with photo and no expiry date... still partially in use. I got a job at McDonalds so you jumped out of my wardrobe in the uniform including Hamburgler necklace pen, paying out on me brutally - I quit (thanks). You always sported cutting edge 80's fashion on our forays into the night - adolescents, stupid with excitement hunting the unknown. Amazing fun and good times ..you always had an appetite.

Gav, your friendship was highly demanding but you loved your buddies like family. Sure footed when I was self-conscious, you were always fearless, made your shortcomings into nothings, backed yourself beyond expectation and made it work. Commitment - no excuses. Qualities you've lived by. We all shared initial adventures on our pathway to manhood - only we know - you can't replicate that.

Then the real stuff; love, family, hard work, loss, more challenges, rewards and pitfalls.. all dealt with in your inimitable style and with outlandish humour. You and your family have been dealt some painful blows lately and my heart goes out. I've shed tears... I'll give the lovely Maz a hug when I see her next.

We've kind of missed the last 20 years of each other, but now it seems in your post-corporate ascetic period you've become a teacher and convener for human good - an exemplar of truths and a compass to many.. I'm full of admiration mate, you've found a way to live gracefully, and you've become an amazing man Gavin. Good on you for showing the way to others and demonstrating rare and pure ways of being.

I love you.

Ben.

Leigh Webber

Gavin,

I have been having these dreams where we are talking to each other- I keep telling you that I am thinking of you. I am thinking of you. Thinking positive thoughts and of good times shared.

Leigh

Andrew Walsh

Gav

I remember your first day as MD at Y&R Sydney.

Your welcome speech was funny, inspiring and spoke of a brighter future for the business.

You defined your management style by reciting a two word poem by Muhammad Ali:

"Me, we".

You went on to prove - to those who listened - this approach worked, everyday.

They were great days to be in the business, and looking back, I know they will stay a special memory.

Your also introduced 'Gav's Wheel of Fun' to monday morning role call.

Each week, someone delivered a short presentation on something inspiring.

Then they spun the wheel, won a prize.

Trouble was, most of the prizes were dodgy client freebies sourced by account service.

But there was one great prize - and I won it.

Dinner for two at Aqua Dining.

I kept it quiet from my wife and surprised her on our anniversary.

So thanks for the brownie points - I think I'm still spending them!

Gav, reading this blog your special talent is obvious.

It shows how you've helped people, from many walks of life, find their passion and lead better lives.

How one man can make a difference.

How to you, 'me', will always mean, 'we'.

With love

Walshy

Tim Dwyer

Gav,

Thank you for being a friend who always wanted to see others have fun, do their best and participate fully in life. It is this passion, openness and no nonsense drive that inspires us to make the most of every moment when we are together. Thank you for all the laughs and good times and for sharing your life with us. I will miss you.

Thank you for making the Classic what it is today. Your energy and passion for a great event which brings mates together is second to none. You are leaving a tradition which will endure until the last of us is standing. I know that you will be with us in spirit each year and we will toast your presence in all our hearts.

You are a legend and a champion who I'm grateful to have had the pleasure to know. I know that your love for your family and friends will last for all our life times as you have shone so bright and have had such a lasting impact.

Our loving thoughts are now with you and your family.

All our Love

Tim, Jacquie, Phoebe and Thomas

Ron & Cyndi Taylor

Hey Gav

It's wonderful to see that you, Maryanne & the kids are surrounded by such respect, love & caring.

Whilst Cyndi & I have not seen you as much as we used to in the SOM days, we want you to know you've been very much in our thoughts of recent times.

From reading the contributions to this blog you should take great comfort & indeed satisfaction, that you have touched so many people's lives from so many walks of life and in so many different ways.

Working at SOM, the famous SOM bar, the Lakes Golf Course, & forgive me, your infamous slow putting, the Bondi – Bronte run, everyone has their own memories.

I would like to say here, and I know I speak for so many people who know you that, in your darkest moments, you and Maryanne are an absolute inspiration to all of us.

RUOK Day is a brilliant & much needed initiative, and it is a true legacy to you & a constant reminder to all of us of a challenge you faced with such bravery.

I'm sure there will be many bottles of varying fluids emptied all around the world each year on that day to serve as a lasting memory for those who know you, and I for one, will play my part.

I know we will all make sure it continues to be a success.

Be proud & fly high mate – it is an honour to know you.

Ron & Cyndi Taylor

Terry Ellsmore

I am sorry the following is not as spontaneous as I would like it to be. I seem to have lost any gift of the quill.

A Few Memories of My Godson

Holding you as a baby during your baptism at Rose Bay Catholic Church. You were heavy (over 10 lbs.)happy and healthy. You didn't cry over the font.

Watching Anthony, a friend and yourself play test cricket matches in the backyard at Stanley Street, where I think your front teeth sometimes acted as the stumps. These matches went for days and I think you guys wrote down official scores.

Entertaining you in Canada for several weeks when you were eleven. We scoured the countryside of British Columbia in search of snow so you could have a ski with John Weisner. After a long car journey (where you managed to get Ryan and Shannon

to sing the Oscar Meyer Weiner song a few hundred times) we were finally successful at Mr. Baker.

On the sidelines at St. Ive's football grounds with "you know who" barracking loudly as you scored about 6 tries in 6 minutes. There were high hopes for later greatness in rugby. Your speed came from Maureen.

Glancing around one Christmas at Bronte and noticing the whole extended family decked out head to toe in Bait clothing.

Maz and yourself beating Ardis and I narrowly (curses!) in mixed doubles at the Catholic Club in Coffs. You are a very stylish player with a great serve. We also enjoyed quite a few games at the Clovelly courts and Belrose. I relied on your errors.

Your wedding which was super. Prince Charles and Diana in Uncle Leslie's Rolls Royce. Maz was stunning.

You, "holding court", a little like your Dad used to at many of the functions we've attended over the years. You inherited his charisma with your personality and sense of fun.

Our surprise drop in visit when you were living in Laguna. Gave us a "kick". Richard couldn't believe it when we woke him up.

What a memorable day I had with you at the rugby, being treated as a VIP.

The phone message re Gus about correcting his golf swing when he was only several months old. Very humorous!''

Always presenting a friendly, positive and thoughtful personality to the world. Lots of empathy.

BEING A GREAT ALL-ROUNDER.

We're somewhat in the same boat, but I've really taken quite a bit of inspiration and example from the way you've handled your far worsening situation. Lots of love and admiration from your godfather, Terry

Thinking of you and your family always,

Uncle Terry

Adam Ashe

Gav,

Here I sit at 1 am on the other side of the globe, after a few beers, a few schnapps, and a few wines...a great crayfish party here in Sweden....as they always are....and my thoughts as they do everyday/night go back to you and your family......we, myself and my girls, Ebba(9)Lily(7)Romy(2) and Josefin, whilst on the annual pilgrimage to Sweden, have been reading the incredible array of words that have been written for you, about you, to you and your family....we are, as most have said before us, in awe.

It is not that we are necessarily in awe of your determination and strength, or Gus's...it is the words of support, wisdom and inspiration that you have been able to accumulate even under the darkest of clouds that you all find yourselves currently.....the generousity shown you and your family.....myself and my girls have learnt and grown so much by following your families journey....I pass on to you and yours our love and happiness, tears and joy, the things that we share together everyday as we talk, laugh and cry about Gav, Maz and their kids.

Gav, we haven't know each other, as the crow flies, all that long.......its been the odd weekend of something resembling golf (well my weekend anyway!!)...lots of laughs and fun...shitloads of drinks...... and this short period of time brought us all close. I have been very lucky a few times over the years to have been paired with you ( I think thats what its called!?)......you have coached/coaxed me round various courses, and even suggested that i have a jacket in me somewhere??...to the point that you even secured me a couple of extra shots this past classic to have a chance...........just not to be mate sorry!!...not yet!!

Bur Gav whist you'll certainly be missed next year (as you were this time around)...you'll always be with us.......and I'm now resolved to fulfill the prophecy.....there's a green jacket in me ...and I have to get mine before Johnny!!

Mate, lots of love....not just from me, but all of my girls ....we are heartbroken by your story as we read and follow everyday, laughter comes, and tears flow, the thought of our family and your family and the similarities..... but we are equally inspired to do better, work harder, and strive for more as we are overcome by waves of sorrow and happiness.....what an inspiration you have become.....and will continue to be.

All our love...hugs and kisses....Adam, Josefin, Ebba, lily and Romy Ashe.

Ardis Ellsmore

I am sorry the following is not as spontaneous as I would like it to be. I seem to have lost any gift of the quill.

A Few Memories of My Godson

Holding you as a baby during your baptism at Rose Bay Catholic Church. You were heavy (over 10 lbs.)happy and healthy. You didn't cry over the font.

Watching Anthony, a friend and yourself play test cricket matches in the backyard at Stanley Street, where I think your front teeth sometimes acted as the stumps. These matches went for days and I think you guys wrote down official scores.

Entertaining you in Canada for several weeks when you were eleven. We scoured the countryside of British Columbia in search of snow so you could have a ski with John Weisner. After a long car journey (where you managed to get Ryan and Shannon

to sing the Oscar Meyer Weiner song a few hundred times) we were finally successful at Mr. Baker.

On the sidelines at St. Ive's football grounds with "you know who" barracking loudly as you scored about 6 tries in 6 minutes. There were high hopes for later greatness in rugby. Your speed came from Maureen.

Glancing around one Christmas at Bronte and noticing the whole extended family decked out head to toe in Bait clothing.

Maz and yourself beating Ardis and I narrowly (curses!) in mixed doubles at the Catholic Club in Coffs. You are a very stylish player with a great serve. We also enjoyed quite a few games at the Clovelly courts and Belrose. I relied on your errors.

Your wedding which was super. Prince Charles and Diana in Uncle Leslie's Rolls Royce. Maz was stunning.

You, "holding court", a little like your Dad used to at many of the functions we've attended over the years. You inherited his charisma with your personality and sense of fun.

Our surprise drop in visit when you were living in Laguna. Gave us a "kick". Richard couldn't believe it when we woke him up.

What a memorable day I had with you at the rugby, being treated as a VIP.

The phone message re Gus about correcting his golf swing when he was only several months old. Very humorous!''

Always presenting a friendly, positive and thoughtful personality to the world. Lots of empathy.

BEING A GREAT ALL-ROUNDER.

We're somewhat in the same boat, but I've really taken quite a bit of inspiration and example from the way you've handled your far worsening situation. Lots of love and admiration from your godfather, Terry

Thinking of you and your family always,

Uncle Terry

Penny Smith

Dear Gav,

I think God chooses extraordinary people to go on extraordinary journeys. Somehow I know you just didn't choose Maryanne because she was beautiful, smart, humorous, generous and extremely loving but also because she was extra ordinary to go on this journey with you. And of course those little Larkins are all a reflection of your match. Gus is just an amazing human being, an inspiration and model to all other humans. Josie a reflection of all the beauty and love inside you both and of course Van the joy and laughter you both bring to the world. I just want you to know you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers every single day.

With Much Love, The Smiths of Laguna Beach

Alex Jensen

Hi Gav

Even though we didn't see you much as a grown up Jane and I have fond memories of you, Aya and Del coming over to Perth on holidays with Barry. I remember you being quiet partial to Baileys Irish cream at a young age, which you introduced us to via Des and Jen's liquor cabinet. I think that might have been the night when Aya had a date over, Jenny Tuttle. We kept calling her Jenny Turtle.

Aya became rather pissed off with us because we all got tipsy and made a bit of a commotion. I was laughing uncontrollably and you and Jane arguing over who had the most skidmarks on their undies.

Del broke his foot during one trip to Perth and would not tell anyone what had happened. It came out later that he had jumped off the Ryan's top floor balcony. I think we had just seen E.T so maybe he was inspired by the flying bike scene, he just didn't have a bike or E.T to help him. You also educated us about Westies and Westie tans.

We always thought you guys were pretty cool.

Unfortunately I don't have any photos of your early holidays to Perth but I have attached a couple (dart board shots) of the family; Mum, Dad, Jane, Kosta, my husband Justy and my daughters Jade and Evie.

Gav, you and your family are in our thoughts. Sending you all our love.

Alex

xxxx

John Parker

Gav,

Every now and then someone comes into your life and leaves an impression that will stay with you for eternity. These people view the world through a different lens. It's a gift they have, and we receive. You truly are one of those people.

I miss picking up the phone and hearing, "Hey Johnny".

Perhaps surprisingly, you are the only person I know that ever called me Johnny. That name is reserved for you!

Thinking of you and the family.

Love always,

Johnny

John, Cheryl & Callum Parker

John Giro

Earlier this year, the proverbial hit the fan in our family after my daughter was ill and then thankfully recovered. I realised my state of mind after the event was very affected.

Having been exposed to RUOK? Day through Gav, I took some steps and went down a path that gave me the strength to reach out when I needed to, and step off the treadmill. Thanks to RUOK? and to you Gav.

I spoke with Gavin around June this year, after I took some time out and we traded stories. At the time, I knew what he shared with me was special. It’s even more so now.

Our conversation flowed to a point where he spoke of how lucky he is to have Maz and the kids. How strong she has been for him and the family. And how much he loves them all. How lucky he is.

How he discovered the real depth of their love, strength, resolve and support. How they all made a conscious choice and aligned their thoughts in only one direction. How Maz’s strength is an inspiration.

It wasn’t hyperbole. It's, as ever from Gav, absolutely from the heart. I remember speaking to Caroline (my wife) about how lucky I am to have someone share their intimate thoughts with me. What a big heart Gavin has.

It is inspirational. It is aspirational. It is, Gavin Larkin.

I know Gav’s inspired many through determination and single mindedness, but I remain most in awe and inspired by Gav’s love for those closest to him.

I have searched for meaning in the last years, and below is something I’d like to share.

In our Western philosophy we perceive time as something that is finite, which once past is forever lost. There is the present, the future yet to happen and the past that we say is gone.

But I prefer how some Eastern cultures consider time. They think of time as a river. While it has a start, a middle and an end, a river exists as all of these three things, at the same time.

If this is true, then are the present, future and even past always happening at the same time?

What was, is Now.

Now, is Now.

What will be, is Now.

Our love to you and all the Larkin’s.

Johnnie G, Caroline and Nina.

Ian Soloman

Gav,

There’s not enough golf stories so I thought I’d share one.

I recall we were drawn in the same group for the Sunday of the Jacket weekend. Unfortunately not in the same pairing, otherwise I might have my name on the shield!

After the usual shenanigans on Saturday night we were one short on the 1st tee. Your partner. No problem you said, I know where to find him and off you drove. 10 minutes later you were back with a half dressed Shonk sound asleep in the passenger seat. Rumour has it you found him at the Bikkie bar. Just a rumour. Much like the Bikkie bar itself.

After you collected his clubs, tied his shoes and put driver, ball and tee in his hand, Shonk decided a couple of hot ones were needed to loosen himself up. It didn’t do much for him … and he still wasn’t loose when he played your ball for the second. Although he did fall out of the cart while in motion.

As the enjoyment of the previous night wore off Shonk became more and more agitated. And hot ones weren’t helping. Nevertheless, you calmly encouraged him, raked his bunker marks, repaired his divots, lined up his putts and collected him from wondering to the wrong hole. You never raised your voice or showed any sign of disappointment throughout the round. Not even when Shonk threw his driver end over end down the cart path or tossed his putter in the lake.

As we finished the round, I remember saying “you are a saint”.

So Saint Gav I will treasure that and many other memories from our golf weekends that you have been so inspirational in developing and energetic in documenting. Your absence will be conspicuous but we will all strive to maintain the tradition that you have been instrumental in building.

You, Maz and the kids are in our thoughts,

Sols and Liz

P.S. Liz wants me to write that you are a spunk – she always thought you were a famous footballer and couldn’t understand how you had maintained your looks. Who did she have you confused with??

P.P.S. Sorry Tim

Mike Zicari

Gav,

It has been a long time since I was lucky enough to spend a bit of time with you. I was invited along for a Classic and you and others welcomed me as though I was part of the crew for a long time. I will make no effort to match the amazing words shared by your many friends. Hard to read and type with tears rolling down your face. To you, I would just say that you have people all around the world, including New York that think about you often. The little I know you, I know that you would be more interested in knowing that my family prays for your wife and kids every night.

Instead I would make an observation for your kids. When you can one day look through all this stuff and see the words spoken about your Dad, I want you to know that making a true impact in life is hard. We can all work hard, make money - go through the motions. Getting it right, leaving a mark, effecting people's lives. That's hard. Doing it in 40 years is almost impossible. By all accounts, your old man is doing just that. He is truly a legend.

This time for you is very personal to me. You all will be in my thoughts. Do me a favor and tell Beth to whisper in Mac's ear to do better at Maths!

Warm Regards.

Mike Zicari

Alan Obrart

Hi Gavin,

This is Alan Obrart here, maybe you remember me, I was a good mate of Barrys, and Maureen, from the mid sixties, at the Beresford road flat, we worked together at Clyde industries, met Peter and Margaret Brennan, then staid close thru his other consulting adventures, till the end, at the Balmoral Beach flat, and the wake party, at Bronte Hotel, Maureen crying on my shoulder after Doug Wrights little speech---we agreed ---neither of us clearly understood the bastard we loved.

What a man, what a mixture, what a very good mate to me,

His stories to me of his childhood, with his dad Tom and was it VI his ex mum ? showed such light on him and what he was,

Anyhow enough of that,

I heard about your R U OK work on the ABC radio, 702, Makka, Sunday morning, Australia all over,

---what fantastic work you are doing----strength to you-----I have no idea if I can help you and your team in any way---volunteering ?

Anyhow, good luck,

Alan Obrart

Per Smith

Gav, as others have said words just don't seem adequate but I would like to share with you a couple of things that bring a smile to my face.

Footy tucker - every recess and lunchtime for years. Of course the masterful Dodd/Larkin -1/2 5/8 combination - was truly a thing to behold. Your Campo goose-step. You were merciless in ribbing me about my unique kicking style - 'booot' (I still maintain that it worked for Mal Meninga, why not me?)

The great delight you took delivering me some good news - the first time a girl 'liked' me at school. The girls and I were then your guests at the Larkin Christmas party at Baz's. Later that night we all went for a swim at the other end of Balmoral we just floating and talking.

You, Mike, Benny and I out on the prowl at Billy the Pigs and The Golden Sheaf. So many times I remember laughing so hard that I couldn't see, and I wasn't quite sure that I would ever stop.

I remember meeting Maz for the first time, we were having a swim at Bronte. I was thinking "she is fantastic", and then seeing in your eyes that she was 'the one'.

One particular summer BBQ with you, Maz, Gus and Josie (Van hadn't made his appearance yet) on the verandah at Clovelly. Good times, so relaxed. The Larkins have a gift making people feel completely at home - truly welcome.

You also need to know Gav, I admire you greatly.

You have treated life with great respect, well most of the time, and you certainly have not taken it for granted. You have dared to dream. More than that, you have made things happen for yourself and those around you. This blog is testament to positivity that comes from being around you. RU OK? is an initiative you should feel immensely proud of. It shows insight, personal courage and leadership to take on what is a tough, insoluble community issue. It will endure.

I love the fact you are prepared to listen to anyone but you don't suffer fools. Life is too precious to waste it on dickheads.

You shown a great appreciation for many things: you really listen to music; you celebrate the joy of eating (and drinking) and you celebrate and share the act (only last Saturday, smashing down a profiterole with toffee - "This is fantastic, where did it come from?").

Most recently you have shown the most incredible courage. Navigating your own illness and also the heavy heart of nursing a sick child. Unbelievable.

Over the years you have shown great trust, generosity and loyalty in our friendship. You have shown me your frailty, and in turn supported me when I was low. I have never been hungry or thirsty in your presence. You have persevered when I have distanced myself. Gav, I am forever thankful for the shared mischief, laughs (so many laughs), advice, dancing, footy and companionship. My life is richer for knowing you.

I love you Gav.

Jack Singleton

Gav

It started with a conversation about The Australian newspaper a couple of

years ago.

You'd just done the new ads for The Australian and I told you I thought they

were pretty good.

You being you, you asked me if the ads were so good that they actually made

me put my hand in my pocket and buy The Australian.

I replied “yes”, and that I usually picked up a copy on Monday - for the

media section - and on Saturday - when I had time to read.

You replied "Not good enough, mate. You need to buy it and read it every

day".

In the weeks and months that followed we'd see each other on the track and

greet each other simply “Every day, mate. Every day.”

If we hadn’t seen each other training for a few days, we’d point out to each

other that there’s little point training only once or twice a week, it

should happen “every day”.

Soon “every day” started to mean a lot more than reading a newspaper or

training.

For me it started to mean that there’s no point doing anything if you’re not

going to do it properly. And for things to be done properly, effort needs to

be put in “every day”. Family. Work. Friends. Training.

“Every day.”

Gav, to me you stand for doing things properly.

It’s not about making a massive all night effort the day before the big

presentation.

It’s not about seeing how fit you can get in two weeks.

It’s not about telling the people you love that you love them once a year on

their birthday or at Christmas.

Life is about the things you do every day.

Thanks for helping me realise that.

Every day, mate.

Every day.

Jack Singleton

Anna Barlas

Hi Gav,

Having worked with you a number of times over the last 10 years at Ogilvy and The Brand Shop, I always remember you for your passion and drive. You were always passionate about our brands and I always felt that you were part of our team helping to drive and grow our business. Your passion also went beyond work and was evident whenever you spoke about your family and your R U OK charity. I saw your story in the newspaper last week and all I can say is that it’s a credit to the great person you are that even when your health is declining you still have passion and drive to keep going.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Love Anna

Michael Briody

Dear Gav,

It's been twenty odd years since I was lucky enough to be invited out to dinner with a group of guys who now hold a special place in my heart.

You were there and the group has been going ever since.

Twenty years sounds like a long time but it passes in the blink of an eye and it is now clear to me that it is not long enough.

You are a great big shining light mate, and the world is a better place for your presence.

It's been an honour and a privilege big man.

Love to you and yours.

Morg's & Bree

Hi Team Larkin,

As we sit here together trying to compose thoughts and sentiments on your life and friendship, we are struck by an overwhelming sense of humility. Humility, that we have been so fortunate to have friends such as you both in our lives. We are in complete awe of your strength, determination, dedication and commitment to every facet of your life together. Thank you for being the people that you are, you inspire us all to be better people.

Gav, it's hard to find words that capture the influence you have had on us. There are so many things you have said and done that will never be forgotten, your devotion to your family, friends and the way you have built R U OK is truly amazing. Not to mention twenty two years of the green jacket, this is a remarkable tradition, your influence and legacy in continuing this will always be cherished.

You are in our thoughts constantly always and forever.

Morg’s & Bree

x

Louise Woodbury

You are truly a man who stands for transforming the lives of others.

Every day in every way you are calling and awakening a new level of communication and what it means to be human: generous and unconditionally giving love to others.

Breathe in the respect that we all have for you & I trust that you are being touched, moved and inspired by your ripple effect in our worlds. Your light shines brightly Gav.

Lisa Klindo

Gorgeous Gav,

Let's face it - you have always been gorgeous but your good looks are far outweighed by your beautiful heart and wicked sense of humour.

Just recently we went O/S and on the plane I was flicking through the comedy programmes. I came across one about Steve Coogan and I remembered ringing Maryanne years ago and ending up talking and laughing with you about The Alan Partridge Project - I couldn't believe anyone else could find it as hilarious as I did - Knowing me, knowing you - ha ha. I also thought about working with you at G.S. when you made your foray into the clothing industry - good old "Bait". Even though it wasn't the success that we all hoped it would be your enthusiasm and drive were so infectious - you made everyone excited about it just by your excitement - that huge grin and twinkling eyes that always hint at a joke just about to burst forth - how could we not all get caught up in your project. This ability to animate people with your positive attitude and enthusiasm is, I'm sure, a large part of why you have been so successful in work and in life - your charisma just draws people in. Your greatest achievement, though, is the beautiful family that you and Maryanne have made together. The true beauty goes much deeper than the surface image - beautiful couple, gorgeous kids - the true beauty of your family is that you and Maryanne are so down to earth and "real" and accept your natural gifts with humility - qualities you have instilled in your kids - willing to admit that nothing is as perfect as it seems but determined to fight for the most important things in life - family, love and friendship. These qualities just make you both just that much more beautiful. I adore Maryanne and am proud to call her one of my dearest friends - I know that you could not have captured such a beautiful heart without being the champion that you are.

Your establishing R U OK? day is yet another testament to your bravery and heart - it is wonderful that you had the guts to admit everyone needs a bit of concern and compassion at some stage and it is a truly important cause that I'm sure will benefit many who otherwise may have fallen through the cracks.

To say that what you and Maryanne and Gus have had to endure over the past eighteen months is cruel and unimaginably unfair is still a vast understatement yet you have all endured with dignity and unbelievable bravery. To know you is a true pleasure, Gav - you are inspirational but more than that you are a wonderful husband and Dad - you should be very proud.

All our love, prayers, hope and positive thoughts to you, Maryanne, Gus, Josie and Van,

xxxxx

Lisa, Peter, Isabella and Luka Klindo

Hugh Jackman

hey gav, i am pretty technically challenged so i hope this gets to you . i have not known you for long, and most of it has been through the internet....but you have inspired me, and like many aussies reminded me not to take our mates wellbeing for granted.

your passion and determination to see things through is extraordinary...you have created a great platform to help everyone in times of need. what a legacy that is. and now to find out you were doing all this whilst fighting a huge battle for your own life is even more extraordinary. it speaks volumes about you mate. if anyone would be excused for being self involved it would be you gav, but no, even now you are focusing all your attention on others. what a wake up call to me, and everyone. what a lesson you are giving. thanks mate. not only for that reminder, but for your ability to galvanise a movement, and still do it with such a sense of humour. it is clear from reading the blog that you are a rich man gav.....with great love from your family and friends surrounding you. now its time to let others look after you.

hugh j

Frances Campbell

Hi Gav!

It's Franny and I'm writing from OOOklahoma! Not even 24 hours from Tulsa I'm actually IN Tulsa! Jenks to be exact. America is certainly an eye opener and I can't help but think of you whenever I see a Taco Bell! I keep thinking about the many things Mary told me about your stay in the U.S. The fabulous halloween outfits and in particular when you visited the Hurst estate. Citizen Kane was such a good movie. Shane and I hired a car in Dallas and we didn't have money for the road toll so I offered the toll girl an Australian $5 (she was very suspicious) I assured her it was worth more than the required $2 U.S. She obviously thought it was a good deal because she took it and after all it was pink, girls like pink! Anyway the temperature is averaging 45 degrees. I was interviewed by Channel 8 in the park by a roving reporter! He said people were wingeing in February about the blizzard and now they are about the heat. What did I think?I said the ground needs rain! I think that we were all so glad when you and Maryanne found each other, she deserved a champion! I don't know how many times I have recounted the story to people, of your proposal to her during Kim & Damian's wedding. The water taxi, champagne waiting n'all! I remember when I was in Sydney once and you and Maryanne took me out to lunch at a cafe in Bondi and I felt so honored and also impressed that you both asked for some pepper from the pepper grinder -which was a new thing back then! We then walked over to Bondi Icebergs for a drink (prior to it being done up) I bought a Bondi Iceberg towel. It was a lovely, lovely time and I will always remember it Thank you!! I think that RUOK is a fabulous concept and I have told many people about it and will continue to. You have managed to articulate something which can effect any of us in isolation. You are obviously a man of considerable depth, feeling and understanding and RUOK is a wonderful gift from you. Gee Gav I can't imagine what you're going through right now but I will continue to pray for you and your truly beautiful little family. One day we'll understand why such difficult things befall us.

God Bless you and ease your pain!

Love Franny xoxo