Nik Watson

Hey Gav,

Nik Watson here. I’ve been pouring over your amazing blog posts from friends and family with laughter (belly laughter) and tears. What a great way for me to get to know so much more about you! (Thanks Aya for giving me, and so many of us, a place to know more about Gav and to share our own experience of Gav).

I’ll never forget first hearing about you Gav. It was over seven years ago and I’d just joined Foxtel and Vick said “You’ll enjoy working with Gav at Y&R. He’s really smart and he’s fair”. Being in advertising for eight years – it was so rare for a client to offer such an introduction and so I was intrigued.

I’d been working with your team a few weeks and hit a snag. I wasn’t sure what to do. I emailed you and asked a pretty simple question (without whining) and you picked up the phone and asked me to come have a coffee with you in an hour.

Not only had you picked up on my issue, you didn’t run around to find out background on what was happening, you just made me the priority and just got straight to the heart of what my issue was. You made me feel like I was the most important person to listen too right then – and with that, the issue just seemed to melt away. This was how I witnessed you resolving many, many everyday agency challenges over the next seven years.

Gav, like a modern day warrior, you walk into almost everything you face head on. From small issues to slaying gigantic dragons, such as depression, for others. On R U OK Day, September 15th this year, it will be phenomenal just how many people reach out to their family, friends, colleagues and even strangers to as R U OK? Just because you built it Gav.

Gav, the absolute depth of love and commitment you have to your family is the most profound picture I get when I think of you. Most times I saw you, there was another fab family adventure, the birth of an angelic bub, or just another day in the Larkin family - and abundant pictures to share. You're eyes simply lit up when you spoke of Maz. You always let the world into your world and for that we’re truly grateful.

You inspire me Gav, to dig really deep and find out what is truly important for me and my loved ones – and to pursue these few things with a force to be reckoned with, and never, ever giving up.

You’re an inspiration to everyone you’ve cared for Gav. On behalf of everyone who you’ve dropped what you were doing for and asked them to have a coffee with you so you could listen to their problems as if no-ne else in the world mattered, thank you.

So much love and warmth to you and your family Gav.

Love Nik xxxx

Colleen Vrolyks

No why's, no sorrow, you have lived a

wonderful life, achieved so much.

You were always a go getter. Life is not fair we all know that. The legacy

you have left is to be admired, your achievements, your beautiful family.

I have not had very much contact with all of you but Gerry & I have had you in our thoughts.

Thank you for being there for us when we had a tragedy in Lyndal's life,

I love you, and you will be sadly missed. Life will go on even when we are all not there

I Love you Auntie Coll & Gez

Yolanda Cassity

Hey Gavin, it's Yolanda, your tequila drinking buddy from your days in the States working with Dieste; that crazy Hispanic ad agency that dared your "Aussiness" in what became more than a shoot in Mexico City, a drinking contest to see if you could hang with us. I am sure you have not forgotten about that trip. I know I haven't.

As I sit here writing you this note, reflecting on my own life, I realize that your incredibly powerful energy, amazing smile and contagious zest for life is the essence of a life I want to emulate. I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to see the amazing Gavin in action as a leader, a family man and a friend. You have touched many with your love for a good laugh and have inspired me to be a better person. I hope you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and never forget you are not alone.

Saludos Gavin and a big, strong hug to you and your beautiful family!

Best,

Yolanda

Richard Braun

Hey Gav,

From singing karaoke at Potters Tavern in the Hunter, to late nights in Hollywood, to sculling (f**kin’ good) port at Roy’s in Hawaii, the last 20 years could not have had more laughs or been more memorable, thanks largely to you. You’ve always had an infectious enthusiasm for everything you’ve done and everyone around you, and the Leura Classic (amongst many things) will be that bit poorer for losing you but remain that much better for having had you.

As with everything that you’ve thrown yourself at in life, the strength and determination you’ve shown in battling everything that’s been thrown at you over the last couple of years has been amazing, and been matched only by the courage and grace you’ve shown over the last couple of weeks. You are truly one-of-a-kind and it’s been my great fortune to have you as a friend.

You’ll be very sadly missed mate, but remembered always (especially on that first weekend of May).

Love to you, Maz, and the kids

Richie

Jessica Fank

Hi Gav,

I know we only knew each other for a short time while I was in Aus but your family and love for one another really helped me not be as homesick when I could see such similarities with my own family. I remember meeting Van for the first time at a family picnic and thinking he is the cutest kid ever in his black, leather biker jacket! I also remember talking about Thanksgiving in the US and how special that holiday is and how you would like to make RUOkay day somewhat resemble the importance of family and being thankful in Australia. It was nice to talk to someone about american holidays. I loved how you and Maz have lived in the US as well. My family and I are thinking of you and your gorgeous, supportive family always. I miss Australia so very much and being part of your amazing family was and still is so special. Stay strong and positive because everyone else around you certainly is. Prayers are with you all now and always. Miss you all.

Love always,

Jessica (Leigh's girlfriend and Fam)

Jeff Fox

Gav, the singular name – Gavin – still rings with daunting reverberence in Orange County, California. Whether it was one of your bald-headed stares, the decision for a few months to wear suits to work, this huge man drinking light white wine at lunch, people still say, “Remember when Gavin…”

You came to Taco Bell at a time when we needed to be shaken up, and that you did. But with a gentle smile, a strong suggestion and a kind word. And the occasional, “What the fu@#*k.”

Gavin, I was lucky to have worked with you and had you in my life for nearly three years. I learned a lot about others and myself by the numerous candid and direct conversations that we shared. Please know that the Orange County crew thinks of you often, mentions your name more than you could ever imagine, and is wishing you and your family all the best through this incredibly difficult time.

Gav, the name continues to live on with splendid thoughts and genuine affection.

All of my best, mate.

Deanne Constantine

I’ll never forget the day you arrived at FAME.

You sat in your corner. I sat in mine.

I wasn’t coming to talk to you, no way. I started at FAME first. You had to come and talk to me. They were my rules then.

I thought stuff it, he doesn’t care, nor do I.

Rackets. Rackets. Rackets. Breakdown. Rackets.

Then… the day finally came. The day you changed my life.

How many people have you touched, loved and inspired? How many people live better lives because of you? How many people will learn to love, be loved, be at peace, clean up mess, inspire others, change the world… all because of you.

You’re goose-bump material Gav. Always will be. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I simply adore you. I’ll never forget what you gave me and what we all shared.

All my love. Your DiDonato, DeeDee, DC x

Maz, one thing we all loved about Gavin (as a hot bloke we all looked upto!) was how he spoke of his love for you. We saw him writing your cards with his door closed, his eyes light up when he spoke about you. We thought he was just being Gav (you know, talk, talk, talk) and then you came into the office one day and we were blown away. Unbelievably beautiful, inside and out. You're one of life's angels. It's no wonder your souls found each other. Sending love Maz & thinking of you always. D x

Michael Sutherland

Hey Gav,

U10 Mosman Whales,in comes the kid with the Adidas Striker lows,fluoro 3 stripes and the hard toe.I was jealous.

You slotted into number 10,had a step and a chip over the top,nice.And you liked to mouth off when we were standing behind our own goal posts.Not much changed eh mate.

Monsieur G. Up for it.

You are a remarkable human being Gavin Larkin,take all this life with you on your next journey,it's yours forever.

Love you mate,

Michael Sutherland

Michael Loccisano

mrs greinger

Hey hooley dooley boy, rock 8’s a buyer.

Gav, I have a confession to make. You know all those years ago, down on the trading floor, how someone was removing the buyers copy out of your operators book, well mate I reckon that nine out of every ten times it happened it was me.

Mate I will always remember when we were coming home on the bus from your bucks weekend, and you got the driver to stop and we were ordered off the bus and you took a photo of many “moons” in front of a road sign, which may have read Nelson Bay.

And it only seems like yesterday, that we were at the pru bache Christmas karaoke party and with our manager over in perth being grilled over W.A. inc, we hit the stage for a duet and did justice to, Stand by your man.

And one from the Roy and HG archives, which I’m not sure why, but it reminds me of you……..”Hi my names Geoff Gerard and I’m a nudist”

Gavin to count you as one of my friends has been a privilege and a pleasure.

Cheers

Max

Almost forgot……………………..Who is Harry Crumb????

Bec Williamson

Gav

I dreamt last night that Maz and I and all our kids were on a boat, a luxury boat, out in a very blue sea, and you were somewhere, unseen, upstairs, (probably in the Captains chair).........I realised that I think you will always be upstairs or in another room for as long as we all shall live.......

Although dreams are notoriously boring on the retell, I am also happy to report that your kids were all snorkelling through ice with only speedos on, (mine must have being playing Xbox)........showing they are every bit as tough and as brave as their Mum and Dad.

Love you guys.....

xoxox

Matt Reinhard

Gavin,

You have always been the hard charging reminder to me, that any challenge, no matter how big or daunting, can not only be met and crushed, but can be overcome with both style and grace. Your willingness and desire to push the boundaries is inspiring.

Though we only partnered for a brief time, your decision to show up in California, take hold of the reigns and drive success for Taco Bell is a true testament of your relentless courage. You are one of the bravest and boldest movers I know, and I’m truly fortunate to have worked with you.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Chris D'Amico

He's not an asshole......he's just Australian

Gavin,

It's Chris D'Amico from the Taco Bell/FCB days.

I think that Aussies are terribly misunderstood. What people don't get, is that you guys are a combination of bombastic energy and brutal honesty. I have had the good fortune to know a few Aussies and call them "mates". You are one of them.

You once told me the story of "Mate-dom" and how it works...."we're all in this together, that is how Aussies are"...I was always very jealous of that truth and insight, being a Yank. But at least, I was able to work with you, experience your force of nature...good and bad...and then go out for a pint with you afterward.

I also remember living on Brooks street...It was Halloween...our families ran into one another...I think you were dressed as a Indy Driver....head to toe. I think it was a perfect reflection of your personality. Of course you had a shit eating grin from ear to ear.

Gav, I'm glad and honored to have met and known you.

Godspeed, mate.

Chris.

Stuart Cook

Apologies dear readers but am sure Gav a.k.a Biff /Garth/Dentures/Savalas would approve if i spent a brief moment throwing up a bunch of names that hold special places in his memory.In no particular order I give you The Doog,Huge T, Econovan,Raehana,Reid Fleming(world's toughest milkman), Doug Lucas, (Slippa) Dick Tooher, "hey aren't you Hooley Dooley?", Pete Sad, Derek Smalls, Len Capel and his unfeasibly frightening proboscus, Patsy Biscuits,Ingrid Hopponpeka, Charlie Frith, Muffy and the other six sawnoffs,The Goggled Fly,The Floggled Guy, Rearonly. Todd Runt-gren,The Trout, The Whitmans Blimp, The Pope, Millie and Derek, The Anvil, Thurston Howell da turd, Caesar Romero, Spotted Dog,Tarmo Rae and his trusty sidekick Junior Tarmo, Carol Bell, John Reinberger, Curly Bonnet, Child Bridie, Max Negrine, Father Jim,The Narcoleptic Kid, our Leo Sayer, Jump up the Pam, Toovey, The Curried Sludge,Hendo, Brinkman, The Chit,Manfred Moore..ahh.. I could go o....Ok that'll do.

Biff, i miss you every day already, i cry about losing you, about you and your beautiful family losing each other. I still just cannot believe this is happening.

"Get over it" I can hear you barking back !

The cavernous hole you will leave in so many lives as reflected by the beautiful words put forward on the blog by all that know you(and some that don't) , will be enormous.Speaking to you the other day, it should have come as no surprise how calm you seemed, declaring you had" lived enough for two lives" in the time you have had on this earth.

I will find you up there one day mate, i want to see a full head of hair, real teeth and that 1974 Penrith checklist I still require to complete said set.

Myself & Sharon, Jack , Alice and Deborah all send our love in absolute bucketloads to you, Maz , J-Pussycat and Van. To the GMan, fighting his own wretched battle, we send even more!!

You will always be an inspiration to me and so many others my man, and,while I believe that we all re-unite one day, til then, words cannot possibly measure just how much I will miss you.

Stuey

David Fox

London Calling!

Dear Gav,

I think as human beings we are all inspired by different things. As we travel through life we look, at certain times in our lives, for signs, clues, even a helping hand to guide us in difficult situations hoping that these signals may shed light on where our paths might take us. Sometimes, sadly somewhat rarely, there are people, events and even places that inspire us all collectively. These are the times and moments in life that bring very different people together and provide a connection on a deeper level that is all to rare yet unimaginably important for us a human beings.

Why is this relevant to this message? - well I sense mate that you are indeed providing that spirit and uniting and inspiring an eclectic group of individuals through your determination and unwavering strength in difficult times, difficult times which we cannot begin to even try and understand or imagine.

They say that you can tell a lot about a person by the friends they have and we , whilst far away in London, have been touched by the people that love and care for you and the fact that you are their inspiration.

Sadly we cannot be close to you geographically but we are there with you in a manner that is far stronger - close to you via our thoughts and prayers. We are with you in heart and mind and we think of you and your family each day and thank you for the times we had back in the bar at Singo's - memories that no one can take and no one can change.

We thank you mate for your friendship, your incredible inner strength and your determination to be the best husband, father and leader a man can be.

Take care my friend - our thoughts are with you and your family.

Foxy, Elicia, Dave and Lara Gallagher

London

Tim and Tamara Hickey

Gav, you are one funny bugger that has definitely brightened and improved our lives...some pics of how we will always think of you. Remember this night circa 2003 - Los Angeles

What a night out, try this for a menu:

1. Sunset Blvde Restaurant - nice meal, lots of nice wine, great catch up on the other side of the world

2. Gay nightclub or at least metro sexual

3. Mace incident that prematurely ended our nightclub aspirations

4. Bought $50 rolex that worked for 36 minutes

5. Met some very 'stiff' Americans

6. All nighter at the Four Seasons...with table dancing and exceptionally loud music

7. Very long drive home for Maz + Gav

Gav,you are a true inspiration - your strength of character, courage and generosity of spirit is awe inspiring. You are an amazing father, husband, friend and human being - a rare breed and a reminder of how we should live everyday.

We send our hearts, thoughts and peace to you and your beautiful Maz and children. We love you Gav. It has been a privilege and an absolute pleasure. Tim and Tamara

Sasha Vlacich

Hi Gav,

Even though we were merely work associates and I’m sure your deepest friends and family have been supporting you every step of the way…However, I often send out thoughts your way more so than any other people I’ve worked with.

But that’s probably because there’s few people in this world I respect in business.

I’m just sorry we never had a chance to have a cheeky night out on the town. I reckon we would have had a blast. Although then again, perhaps it would have then become a regular occurrence and then all sorts of trouble would have come about! J

When I think of certain people going through black times I always think of this quote from Hafiz

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.” ~ Hafiz

I think your friends and family continually reflect your light. And hopefully the fact that I’m writing this will let you know your light has shined on me as well.

Be at peace my friend.

Sasha

Joseph Worthington

Hey Gav,

I thought would re-send this photo along with another one from back in the day when all you guys looked like Corey Feldman.

The make me smile when i see them, and i always remember you as you appear in these photos - as the strongest figure in our family.

Catching up with you and the family has always been sporadic, but those beautiful gatherings around christmas - called the 'Larkin Christmas' - were always something not to be missed.

Mum and Dad would always have a changed opinion on something, that they had adopted after talking with you at those days down at Chinaman's Beach. You always had a huge influence on everyone in the family Gav, in the most positive way.

I will miss you always mate, especially at those times of the year! I look forward to seeing Maz and the kids through all of the years to come.

My thoughts are with you all,

Love and respect always.

Cousin Joe.

Will Granger : The Audacity of the Man

Having failed his audition for the 'Blue Wiggle' Gav is depicted here drowning

his highly visible sorrow. Eternally the benchmark of Milan style the matching

skivvy and eyes is a winning combination, just wish he'd wear his teeth out more

often to give the rest of us a chance.............audacity by the bucketload.

Helen O'Byrne

Dear Gavin,

What you give out in life is what you get back and you have truly lived this way more than anyone I know.

There is so much love for you Gavin and this is because you have made a place in your heart for so many people. Such a big heart.

Your ability to communicate has always been incredible and now at this very hard time you are still communicating. I believe the impact your story will have on people’s lives, will be far deeper for it. Too many of us worry about stuff we can’t control and if I have learnt one very important thing from you it is not to meet trouble half way.

You are one of the most genuine and honest people that I have ever had the pleasure to know.

The one thing that has struck me more than anything is your incredible strength of spirit over the past 16 months.

Every time I have spoken to you, you have been so positive and always still thinking of others.

I have been blessed to know you for over ten years and have so many funny memories of you……………you gave me my first job in advertising in Australia – you told me at my interview “You are hired but if you are a wall flower, we will find out and you won’t last!”. Then when I gave you & Ashton a serve one day, you never ever let me forget it! Ever! You drove me insane with your god damn terrible Irish accent repeating my full name and over and over asking me where my caravan was. It drove me demented for over two years and the full name lilt stuck! You were such an incredible mentor and I will never forget your encouragement for me to take your role when you left for the US. I was scared and not ready but you said……..”you will never be ready, just do it” . There were funny times catching up with you in Dallas at the KFC/Pizza Hut conventions with memories doing those crazy YUM cheers! I have told you everything that I have wanted to say over the past few weeks so know that you, Maz, Gus, Van and Josie are constantly in my thoughts, my heart and my prayers.

Thank you for being who you are.

Sending you all my love

Helen

Michael Parnell

Gav , so many great warm and funny moments.

You know, I had been pretty sure I'd played my last game of Rugby many years before, but, somehow found myself at Nth Sydney oval number 2 one day, must have been around 1989 I guess. My memory is slightly hazy as, as happened so often I a knock on the head that day (and that was in just in the dressing room as we did our pre match Roy masters style preparation).

Anyway my hazy memory has me somehow agreeing to a game for, was it Sydney UNI 5th grade. (How did they ever filed a team usually?).

I think I must have been placed in the engine room (out of the way so the stars in the backline could shine), and possibly teamed up with Michael "Rupert" Fagan there to provide some muscle. Mark "Roy" Paul was there somewhere too I think and Aya may have been at breakaway. Stew Cook at half back, and some big bloke at five eighth who kept telling us all what to do (oh that was you). Mike Jeffries in the centres (we needed someone to score tries).

But most amazingly was some guy in who turned up offering to play number 8, with a really old pair of boots. Yes, none other than Baz himself. What a game (I think we even won?)

It's the kind of thing that could only have happened with Larkin's.

Your mate, Judge.

P.S. Aplogies if I didn't remember anything correctly, and particularly if you scored a try and I didn't mention it.

Chris and Sarah Basten

Julia,

Thank you so much for this opportunity and for the massive support that Maz says she is getting from you.

Here is our contribution…

You have done many amazing, fun and (at times) tough things with different people around the world. Along the way you have won so many hearts. You clearly have many lovely friends and it is a joy to read about your activities and friendships. We will always have special times in our memory banks: we danced, partied, dressed-up (there was a merkin at one stage), drank brilliant wine, ate superb food, did The Hunter, did the beach, played touch footy with the kids, and had honest discussions about life and death. Your radical acceptance of life and death is beautiful and I have told many people of the stellar example that you have consistently set. You have given your three gorgeous kids – through your enthusiasm and lust for life and Love for them – enough fuel in their tanks to last them forever. All Maz needs to do now is give them tune-ups every now and then. I want you to know that those three will have your friends looking out for them forever.

I know you told me a few times, but I still don’t get how you got RUOK Day up and running. Within one year, you had on-board mental health service partners, media partners, NGOs, and heaps of community goodwill. What I had trouble getting, I guess, is that I didn’t believe anyone could do all that. But, when people see the vision that you have and witness the energy and massive willingness to make it happen, then they want to do things with you and for you. And, man, you have all those qualities in spades. ‘RUOK’ will live on and be a landmark in Australia and elsewhere. There are several people (me included) who will make sure that happens.

You have scored some huge goals and hit some long shots; I guess some bunkers are too steep to hit out of. We treasure our times together and look forward to having more of the good stuff in the future with Maz, Gus, Josie and Van.

Tori Stalker

Maz and Gav and the kids

Just got this blog address. It’s been so long since I heard any news and I hear things are getting rough. Just know that your California friends are thinking of you. You were only here for a short time but made such an impact and then left such a big gap when you left. I keep seeing the photo of Josie and Eilidh and Jacob Thornton running around your back yard with minimal clothing on!!! (How they would cringe at that photo now!) Anyway my dears, I have you in my thoughts. Kisses to all…Special love to you Maz. One day my dear, I will get the girls and I to Australia and yes, we will knock on your door. I expect a glass of wine waiting!

You are a good man Gav, a great Daddy… such a big presence. You have made a huge mark in this world and really in the end of the day, that is all one can ask for. Your legacy is clear. You have touched many.

Bless you all

Tori, Faron, Hannah, Maia, Eilidh Stalker, Laguna Beach, California.

Marc Braun

Gav - you are a champion. There is no other word for it. The things you have done and achieved would be the envy of most.

You found and married the love of your life at a young age. You have stuck together with Maz through thick and thin, and are still with the woman that you love, and that loves you. There are many people that never achieve this, and nothing will ever diminish the love you have for each other.

You have 3 beautiful children in Gus, Josie and Van, who will carry on the great Larkin tradition of love, creativity, determination and positive thinking.

You were selected by arguably Australia's greatest ever ad-man to front one of his businesses. What an achievement!

You have single-handedly, from scratch, created one of the most successful anti-suicide campaigns seen in RUOK? day. The positive impact this will have in the future will be immeasurable.

You have provided for your family a beautiful home with everything they could need or want.

You have lived and worked overseas and had many fantastic holidays.

Your outgoing and charitable personality has meant that everybody wants to be your friend. And I mean everybody! You have one of the largest group of sincere friends imaginable, who together will make sure that any needs of your family in the future will be looked after.

And of your sporting achievements, I need say no more than these 3 words……"Two Green Jackets". But I will…...

I have got to know you well through our Leura Classic tours. The Classic was slowly losing attendees, until you revived it. Your drive in making changes was unstoppable. I remember you hosting several meetings and providing the beers at your office in Paddo, without which we would never have gone to Hawaii and enjoyed the greatest Classic of all time. When people think of the Classic, they think of you! You have been on 17 of 22 tours, only missing when you were overseas or ill. You are a two-time Jacket winner (1994, 2006), a four-time shield winner (1991, 1994, 1998, 2005), one of only two men to win the Jacket and Shield in the same year (1994), and the only man to get a hole in 1 on tour. Your win in the play-off in 2006 after chopping into the bushes had to be seen to be believed. You have the highest all-time average score of all regular attendees (31.2). You gave us all Augusta ball-markers, Green Jackets for past winners, you initiated green shirts for Butlers and white shirts for Buffalos in the RideHer Cup, you taunted the Buffalos with pink golf balls, you fearlessly took on Koolau while all those around you lost their balls (and then wanted to play another round). Luckily we were drawn together a lot, and you guided me around the course many times, only for me to choke at the final hurdle every time, until…..you pointed out the trajectory of my final putt in 2010 to win. Handicapping decisions were never made without your input. You had two calcutta wins with Tranq (2005) and Lift (2008), but win or not, that didn't stop your night time activities. You survived garden gnomes and hanging baskets at the Cumberland (Throw) Motor Inn Cessnock, $20 rooms including one beer at The Islander, Courtyard Marriott (5 times), Hollywood and Larry Wongs Chinese. And of course, you have given us all memories that can never be erased through your 20 year video, your Butler interviews, your Hawaii movie and last year your compilation of the Jacket winners' DVD (thank you). Mate, nobody has as much enthusiasm for the Jacket than you. You are the Leura Classic!!!

Gav, you are an inspiration. I love you mate. Always will.

Nugget

Cheryl Hayman

Gav,

Where to start?...we go so far back....together for the first time as your Pizza Hut, then KFC Client, then as your friend, meeting the gorgeous Maz and then the kids, and finally working with you again years later. We have had so many funny times, long lunches, laughs and lunatic ideas together.

We also shared tough times when someone we loved passed too soon years ago. So many bonding moments and so many lifetime memories for me.

You are an amazing person.

A lover of life and family and friends.

An inspiration to everyone you touch.

Someone I think of often, and from whom I have learned so many lessons along our friendship journey. Someone who will never be forgotten for the passion and pilgrimage with which you started R U OK? Day. A true blue Aussie soldier who fought and fought with an ever optimistic view for much more of that wonderful life you deserved and were blessed with.

I know I am a better person for knowing you, and for sharing special times with you and Maz.

You will forever have a place in my heart and both Phil & I send you all our love, thoughts and wishes...know that we are thinking of you and the family with warmth and wonderment.

William Wordsworth said... “The best portion of a good man's life - his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.”

This is a perfect summation of what you have brought, always, to our lives.

Andrew Heys

Gav

I just don’t know what to say to you and your family, I’m so lost for words, but maybe you’d like to hear how you were perceived over many decades by a kindred spirit; a fellow Gen x’er and golf nut?

I have many fond memories of moments spent with you I’d like to share with you and others coming to this space to share stories about you and your life and to connect.

I remember you as a sports hero growing up on the north shore; you in Willoughby colours me in lane cove. 1979 is a beautiful timeless period in my mind, maybe in yours too, the cicadas croaking and the smell of freshly mowed lawns? Mostly we were opponents on the football and cricket field, but occasionally you were a team mate… you were a fierce competitor ; I would have preferred you on my side. We were only about 12 but I can remember you clearly, you always looked the part playing sport, a glamour no.10

Much later we would often meet at Aya (+Del’s gigs) and be the one’s with a beer in hand up the back. Somehow it seemed to me we were both a little bit like outsiders in that muso world.

I remember your speech at Barry’s memorial – you seemed very staunch and brave. Very grown up, a rock in the face of so much confusion and hurt you all felt - we all felt. That moment has stuck in my mind…

More recently I remember you at Watsons Bay when Aya and Lee were visiting a few summers ago and we laughed at some silly shared memories, both in suits after work, everyone else in boardies.

I remember having a few beers to farewell Aya after a recent trip as the sun set at Icebergs. A memory was shared by Aya about how you bowled over all in the way when your first saw Maz at a party a lifetime ago to make your play. It was clear from the story how in love you were from the start.

More recently I remember an invitation to play golf and your phone message about the Match – what a wonderful book it is. You seem to know what to say so intuitively, even in a voice message.

I think we could have been really close had you stayed at NSBHS and not gone east. I got your brother as a best friend instead. He is like a brother to me as he is to you, Del, Rick Laura and many many others. Reading this blog it sounds like you are like a brother to so many people not to mention a lover, a friend, a dad, son, boss and sparring mate.

You Larkins are a wonderful family and YOU are such a key link mate. You are greatly loved and make a big big difference in this world.

Peace + love to you and all your family.

Naiba - Andrew Heys

Margaret Zabel

Dear Gavin

I think of you and your family everyday, several times a day and am sending you thoughts of love and peace.

Thank you thank you for asking me to join you at R U OK? Your passion for saving lives and living has been an inspiration to me and many, many others. It has been a privilege to work with you and I will cherish that opportunity always.

R U OK? is empowering people to connect, helping people prioritise what is important and giving them greater empathy for others. Who would have thought that an idea so simple would capture the hearts and minds of millions. Clearly you did. And we have only scratched the surface! Your spirit and passion will continue to guide and energise us as we champion your awesome vision for R U OK?

Your life has already contributed to many being able to live theirs fully. And your legacy will only continue to grow. Thank you.

A very big hug!

Margaret

Mark Paul

Biff, Gav, Larkin G

Big, bold, brash Biff. So positive. Never any fence sitting, always shooting straight, everything is always black or white (never any grey, except when ribbing the Grey Ghost/K Rudd/da Commodore).

Yet to meet anyone who can talk it up like you. Your stories are so vivid I could picture myself there, a few that stand out are; when you were a corporate guest at those two great USA cathedrals, namely Augusta and the Hugh Hefner mansion; your green jacket victory and introducing the red shark (Johnny G) to the great white shark!

I recently laughed at your strong views on the shortcomings of Rory McIlroy’s caddy when standing on the 10th tee with the lead on the Sunday afternoon at this year’s Masters and what he should have been saying to Rory!

You are always a delight to be with and your presence and drive will linger for many years. I have fond memories of our regular ‘shed’ dodgy vindaloo gatherings and, winding the clock back, your buck’s weekend in Newcastle and the golf photo finish with PJ to win the ball & chain trophy, much to your chagrin!

Your response to the short, chin music deliveries sent down to you and Gus has been Steve Waugh–esque (ala J Garner), inspiring, defiant and even provocative. My family’s and my thoughts and prayers are with you, Maz, Gus and the gang.

I read this quote recently and immediately thought of you and how you have lived, and continue to live your life:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”

- Theodore Roosevelt

KICK Biff!

Mark ‘Roy’ Paul

Frere Family

Dear Gav

I know my life is so much richer for having met and worked with you. Being an old suit I of course selectively remember the good (better) times and in particular the campus at Paddo when you and the brand shop were in full flight! The sun was shining and the place was humming with new business wins, Agency of the Year nominations and good humour. You live large in many people's lives and always will.

Lots of love

Derick Frere

Katie Jaques

Dear Gav & Maz and family.

So glad that we knew the right people that enabled us the wonderful chance to meet you & your family. Because you guys were so generous in heart, so warm & friendly it was easy to make a real connection with you, and for that we are very grateful. We have not had the opportunity to see you recently, but we have been constantly thinking about you and sending all our positive energies to you and the family. When we tend to bitch and worry about the stupid stuff that comes day to day, we have often reflected on what different paths life can take you and what you and your family have been going through. It is then that we remind ourselves that every connection, every action & relationship that you have within your family & friends is so important and there is no point in worrying about the negatives. You sound so strong and have a remarkable attitude towards it all, you are a legend. We feel as though you have touched our life in a really positive way.

We send all our love and support to your family & to you.

Love

Todd & Katie, Zac, Ava & Leo.

Ashton Bishop

It’s hard. It’s hard for friends of Gavin to know what to say; yet given what his family are going through we know we need (in Gav’s words) ‘a large glass of harden the flock up Australia’.

Anybody who is a friend of Gav’s probably feels the same sense of shock, injustice and loss. Gav is a born leader and if you are lucky enough to form a friendship with Gavin you have had the privilege of having an amazing leader in your life. One definition of a leader is somebody who you’d follow to a place you might not go yourself. I have, and would follow Gav just about anywhere.

Over the course of 10 years I worked with Gav across three different agencies. And given just how much the ad industry saps out of you and the time you spend at your desk - over the last decade I’ve probably spent more time with Gav than just about anybody else on the planet.

Over those years Gav has been a leader, a mentor and a mate. He is a big man in every sense. Talked big, played big, was big. There was always a reverence around him. When he walks into a room things change. He wasn’t afraid to ever speak his mind for fear of repercussion or consequence. If it needed to be said or done - Gav would stand-up to be counted. You always hoped to hell you never had to cross him or get in his way. Yet he was so bloody charismatic that even the people who he had argy-bargy with in the workplace are almost universally proud to call him a friend today.

When I think of Gav in words I think of conviction, courage and strength. And few of us knew just how strong he really was. For years we thought he had no weakness, he had no doubt. But his true strength showed for me when he admitted that what looked from the outside like the perfect story: the job, wife, kids, car, house and life wasn’t the perfect fairytale afterall. He was still wrestling with the darkness around his father’s departure and scared of his own path unless something changed.

So in typical Gav style he look himself head on, changed the game and transformed his life (not to mention those around him). R U OK? day is an expression of this change. It’s a story much bigger than one man. A story that started with his father, to him being a father and the choices that we all make. What’s so amazing about Gav is his generosity. To make a stand for everybody dealing with mental health issues that they never have to stay silent and feel alone.

That’s courage beyond a man. There’s the awful reality with cancer that the suffer is fighting for their life. It’s instinctual for humans to fight for their lives with everything that they have. Gav not only fought the fight of his life against his illness, he fought selflessly for all of us. He fought for his family and his friends. But bigger than that (and quite extraordinarily) from his hospital bed he kept R U OK? day on track. Continuing to fight so that nobody else has to experience the loss and hardship he endured.

For me that’s where R U OK? day becomes bigger than the man, but once again Gav becomes bigger than R U OK? day. For each of us lucky to have been touched by Gav he shows (rather compels) us to draw on our own conviction, courage and strength. It’s easy to feel small being around Gav. Yet Gav’s gift to us all is to be bigger, to play bigger. We know that in each of us there’s our own version of R U OK? day that’s just waiting for us to step up. It isn’t over. We can all be better friends, parents, workmates and citizens. But with a leader like Gav in my life I know I can and will do better.

This message is way too long, but with Gav he’s bigger than words on a page and I can never write enough to express the difference he’s made in my life and how proud I am of how he’s chosen to play out his. The greatest tribute I can give Gav is to admit when I feeling down; to accept when I’ve made mistakes. Then glug down that large glass of “harden the flock up” and get out there and make the biggest difference I can.

Mate, you have been the best mentor, friend, leader and god parent to my daughter that I could have asked for. You’ve kept your head high through the best hell could throw at you. One day, we’ll all have to go down the road your on now - you were born a leader, you set the standard and will continue to lead. There is no end.

Love,

Ashton, Mags and Liliana

X

Tara Sailor

Dear Gav, Maryanne and your beautiful children,

Never did we think we would have friends going through what you guys are, but then, never did we think we would meet people and be friends with the Larkin’s. We certainly were in the right spot the day we met you all. Such lovely, friendly and driven people with a love for each other that stood out a mile! The group of us at Clovelly/Bronte had lots of laughs, wine and good times…..you guys made a great Steve and Terri Irwin, soooo believable, even the hair Gav! (I will find a picture and post it….a must see!).

Maryanne, you have always been such a kind and beautiful friend and even though I am not there physically, myself and my family are with you in every prayer you make.

Gav, you are just an incredible man. Having known you as a friend and then more recently, helping you a little with R U OK? Day, I haven’t seen such a commitment. Never has someone responded to an email/text so quickly!! Your commitment is truly inspiring and Wendell and I will continue to be a part of that for you and encourage more people to follow this legacy for you.

All our love is with you every minute and heaps of hugs and love to Gus, Josie and Van. Every day we wish we were closer.

Lots of love,

Wendell, Tara, Tristan and Matisse xxxx

Regards,

Tara Sailor

Sheri Morgan

Gavin,

We were the lucky ones to meet you all when you were in Laguna. I loved my time with Maryann and was always drawn to her and her peaceful spirit. When we met you, it was clear that she knew a deep love that gave her that sense of peace. Our boys became fast friends, a friendship that continues today through the great invention of emails!

We were so fortunate to be blessed by your time in Laguna. Although I can't say as many men might agree! You have raised the bar on what women want from their man! I clearly remember the day, a cold, blustery day at soccer practice at El Morro. The sky was dark with clouds and the ocean black and choppy. A storm brewing for sure! It could get freakishly cold in fall at times! As Maryann and I stood shivering while the kids played, you appeared, it seems unannounced, with a grin on your face that felt like sunshine bringing warmth to the world. As you walked, no glided, maybe even floated over to us, your smile got bigger and Maryann seemed to begin to glow. You gave her a big hug and a warm kiss and insisted that she go home, light some candles, draw a warm bath, have a glass of wine and you would hang out and bring the kids home....I think even with dinner! It did not take much convincing for Maryann to accept your offer and off she went. You and I exchanged small talk as you clearly were more interested in going off to the monkey bars to give your other favorite girl a hug and perhaps a few laps around the playground! How happy I was to be in the company of such a great love and such a wonderfully warm and close family!

I remember shortly after that Maryann asked me how life was with three kids. I remember thinking, can't be sure of what I said.....that was one more kid ago and I have since lost many of my wits!!! - but I remember thinking, with all that love, how can you NOT have another one! Go for it! Note below, now there are four!!! :)

When I read through the blog, the articles etc. I am in even more awe than I was those years ago. I am guilty of wishing you were all still here so we could bask in your aura. However, as a believer in "everything happens for a reason...." your time in Laguna was to strengthen your family, spread your good "mojo" here in Laguna, before whisking them all back to Australia (as we all started fall deeply in love with your family... ) so that you could be surrounded by family and long time friends while you took on your most challenging project.

Your enthusiasm for life is like a raging river, you have swept everyone in your path along with you! You are such a gift to this world and the love, confidence, enthusiasm, honesty and grace of which you live your life is a treasure to all who know you!

Big huge Laguna Love!

Sheri, Mike, Max, Grady, Cassidy and Maris Morgan

Roger Eaton

G'day from Kentucky

Gav

Just caught up with your news and wanted you to know that I am thinking of you. I still have not met a bloke who could hit a driver as far as you – I reckon they had to invent tempered steel shafts to stop them buckling on your power. Anyway was just musing about our time together in Sydney and the weekly challenges on Pizza Hut amongst others. Have to say you were always a pleasure to work with – definitively one of the good guys in business!!

Anyway am stuck in Louisville so cant pop around to say hello but I want you to know I am thinking about you and with you in your challenge.

Very best

Roger Eaton

Martin Hennessy

Gav,

Martin here in beautiful Laguna Beach.

I just drove by your old house this weekend and I’m happy to report it has not slide down the hill yet with the rest of the homes in Bluebird Canyon. What impeccable timing you had.

Greg sent me a note with a link to this blog and it reminded me how precious time and family are. My son Cameron was asleep this morning when I got up but I couldn’t stop squeezing my daughter Kate. Cameron has no idea what’s coming when I get home. Thank you.

Reading this blog, looking at the pictures and pieceing your life together over the past year has made it painfully clear that our purpose here is to help others and make this planet a better place to live. Something you have obviously done. When we had to put Kate in the hospital I was distraught and fearful and could barely contain myself. After walking the halls of the Childrens Hospital while Kate was recovering I realized her issue was only minor compared to the challenges so many of the children were having. I declared – “I’m going to help” – and sadly have done nothing yet. Your family, your friends, your life has reignited that feeling again. I hope I can make you proud from whatever vantage point you have.

I remember the night I met you and going out for drinks at Ocean Avenue Brewery. I said to myself, “what a force”. You were one of the most dynamic people I had every met and in some ways downright scared me. However, meeting your family and watching you with your kids was such a contradiction. Your gentle, kind spirit and the love you poured out made it clear you were just a big pussy with a giant heart.

What you leave behind is all that counts. I’m better having met you.

Piece of my heart Mate.

Martin, Nicole, Kate and Cameron

The Corr Family

Subject: Girlie Larkin

"let me tell you a story about a man named Gav......"

For me it starts in the Potter Partner's Sydney office about July 1989, we had asked to interview all the smart young guys from the trading pit who might have strong enough personalities to deal with the egos of the the floor traders as well as coping with the bunch of neurotic aspirants called "options salesmen" who hoped to boss such a person around for a few years....to this this day I thank David "freddy" Full for saying that Gavin "gash" Larkin was really the only candidate...in he walked off straight off the trading floor... straight off the cat walk really (does anyone remember "Hooley Dooley's"?)..full of confidence...we asked "Gav can you deal with this task" ..."no problem, got it sorted" was the response.

Gav and I immediately had a great rapport (really I just love bossing a pretty boy around ) but within a few months some of the team was looking to move on to a new broking firm, and we had to approach Gav...."Gav this is a great opportunity, we all want to go, but they don't want to hire someone in your role....unless you can go impress the boss...Sydney's leading broker Brent Potts, that you are a great salesman.... and their senior option trader Simon Poidiven, that you are tough enough to trade on his behalf....Gav can you do this?...."no problem, got it sorted" was the response.

Of course he got the job, but markets were dull. Having Gav around contributed to us all having a fun time; he rejoiced in showing me how much better he was at tennis, golf, dancing, indoor cricket, touch footy (he claimed to be able to tackle but i was too old and no one seemed to remember the last time he actually made the effort), but he was bored with the business that we where involved in....so Gav says "I'm going to set up a fashion label"....of course we all tried to talk him out of it but "no problem, got it sorted" was the response.

Of course it was a mad (but fun) idea and the business struggled but Gav approached it with intelligence and enthusiasm; about the same time he met a wonderful and pretty young lady....she was so nice that even the great Gav Larkin wanted to marry her... I remember telling him that he would would lose her unless he got his career in order....."no problem, got it sorted" was the response.

A move to advertising,was best for him, he said ,with his usual dash of confidence/arrogance; older and wiser heads warned him against such a competitive business....but....."no problem, got it sorted" was the response. Of course years of success and awards again proved the confidence/arrogance not to be so bold.

Married to the pretty young lady he builds a great family life, but a career challenge is always in order and those Americans could always learn more about about advertising couldn't they?....guess what "no problem, got it sorted" was the response.

Returning to Australia Gav continued his successful career but, deciding this was not enough, also tackled a major social problem. Depression and suicide was something close to his heart and history; he wondered could something as simple as asking each other " R U OK?" help...why not try?...of course "no problem, got it sorted" was the response, and it is a testament to him that this will undoubtably continue as a major social initiative.

In the last eighteen months Gav has approached his illness with the same can do "no problem, got it sorted" approach that gave us all the casual confidence that he would succeed, alas it appears not to be this time.

Facing death and wondering if we are brave enough to embrace our loved ones but also speak honestly about ourselves is something we all fear but hope to have the strength to do; i am not surprised that Gav Larkin is able to say "no problem, got it sorted".

Gav you are a great friend,my family and I offer as as much support as we can to you, Maz and your family.

JC

Margaret Hennessy

Gav & Maz – Have crime rates risen in your area?

Because if they have, I know why…see attached!

Just two of your many friends who look better with headgear then without.

All my love to you.

Margs

Tim Schoeffel

Gav, Maz & Beautiful Crew,

Life is so much better for the friends we meet and choose to keep. The inspiration and memories are not measured.

Thank u for the Fish & Chips at Balmoral, for the bottles of Mount Pleasant (that we continue to drink) and the many laughs

we shared at the beautiful Laguna Beach with u all (even tho Gav u were not on holidays!!)

We are in awe of ur achievements. You are the epitomy of strength and family. You have achieved more than most could - in

double the lifetime.

Love Tim, Nat, Chloe, Vienna & Blake - Chloe brought out the photo of u holding her in ur hand in the King's Pool.

She wanted me to tell u that. xxxxx She will look after her fairy Godmother. x

Scott Doble

Gav and Maz

Over thirty something years of knowing you Gav I can honestly say I’ve never heard anyone with a cross word to say about you.

Over the last year I have heard countless reports on how you were travelling and each time it has been with guts, determination and the best of spirit. A tribute to your courage and style. Each time we have spoken in that time your positive attitude in the face of trying times has been outstanding to say the least. The comfort you have given others by your spirit and strength has been inspirational to say the least.

Guys if there is ever anything I can ever do to help out – especially if you have any engineering questions with the house – just to bounce something off me, please just give me a call.

Lots of Love

Scott Doble

Kieran Kelly

Hey Larkin,

I thought I was the ultimate media tart. But mate that was something else. Two stories in the one paper. Get out of here!!! You must have some serious pull. Full page stories as well and your melon is even more rugged than mine…..and you were photographed with a famous sportsman. I notice you didn’t mention your girly second serve. I’m going to write to the editor and tell them the real story …. That you talk a big game but the second serve never went in.

Anyway mate, that was quite a performance. Can you let me have the name of your agent. Piece of advice. Next time put Maryanne’s photo in the paper instead of yours

Hope you find this gratuitous advice helpful. I’m seriously pissed off.

Regards

Kyle Williams

Hi Gav,

I read the article in the paper and feel absolutely deflated. We only hung out for a short time, but it was good time.

Some 20 years on our lives have some parallels with a young family, and I cannot begin to fathom what you are going through, but based on my short association with you, and the words from people close to you, it seems you haven’t changed over the years. Instead you have simply spread your charm more widely.

Whilst you and Simon may have defeated Maca and myself in the sporting events of our multi staged competition, you where never competitive in the McDonalds eating competition and your partner in crime let your team down in the schooner drinking comp.

You certainly won’t be forgotten.

Wave Rat

Matthew Pitt

Hey Bear,

I started a letter to you, but this is far better.

What you mean to me ! - (corny I know, and somewhat romantic too - Bromance perhaps ?) -

In the (g)olden days, back as teens, you were the cool kid. You lived in cool houses - O'Dowd, the old Gardyne, I even remember Chatswood, but not the street name. Your bedroom was allways cool, you always had a trreasure trove of stuff- bears, skateboards, GI Joe toys, music and posters. I was in awe of this kid, and a bit intimidated, to be invited into your bedroom - the shrine of all things cool. And then when the testosterone kicked in and pubity hit - the was a bevvy of beauties (none that surpass your current gal) but as a meek and mild family friend I was awestruck by you, But its that feeling that I still have although its manifested into somewhat another feeling and its only been recently that I worked it out.

So it brings me to the now, as matured gentlemen that I see the realness in you. I took at seat at one of the family gatherings at Gardyne Street probably the xmas before last and watched the crowd, and watched how when you entered the room, the there's a shift, people want to gravitate to you- unashamedly - I do. Your like a bright like and we "moths" love to get up and close to you. We are magnetised by you. You have enormity, of pulling people along, a charisma, its fascinating and exciting for us. We just want to be part of the YOU.

See you mean so much, in so many ways to many people of many walks of life. ( I read of this in many of these posts)

Apologies for my texts of late with boxing vernacular and titling you as "Champ", not sure if your sick of it. Going to see the movie "The Fighter" with you resonated deep inside of me, I saw subliminal messages akin to your own struggle at the time. The character Micky Ward possessed many an attribute that you show. So inspired by this and our subsequent dinner afterwards I actually wrote a letter to the real Micky Ward about you and talking up RU OK Day (sadly no response).

Love and warmest of thoughts to you and your tribe.

Love Pitty

Christiaan Schenk

Gav,

I have so many great memories of the time we spent together as kids.......the big Christmas gatherings, the annual tennis comp, swimming at Nana and Pa's, your many visits to the Central Coast to see us, the trip you made to watch my soccer grand final with your Dad, lots of weddings, birthdays and family gatherings...... I remember the night before each occasion, being too excited to sleep.

Growing up, you were the cousin I looked up to, the one I tried to emulate......you were my cool cousin from Sydney....the one who introduced me to a world outside the tiny town of Woy Woy. Your love of music, art and sport was infectious and has continued as a passion of mine ever since. You took me to my first rock concert.....my 14th birthday.....1984........U2 ......10 rows from the front. 26 years later, I was able to share the U2 experience with Kayli and Sophie......your passion for music now continues with my children.

Whilst our time together as adults has been limited to the odd get together, I've always looked forward to catching up with you. You make it easy for the people around you to feel comfortable and I've always felt this way when we've met. I've long admired the life you have created for yourself.......your wonderful relationship with Maz, your beautiful children, reaching the top in your career, your work with RUOK......you are a truly successful, wonderful and inspiring man.

I'm so grateful for the time we spent together, the influence you've had on me as a person and I'm extremely proud to have you as my cousin.

It breaks my heart that this has happened to you. I'm very sad.

Love you Gav.

Christiaan

Chris Mort

Gav,

Thank Christ you came into the office and I met you so long ago – my life’s been a hell of a lot better for it.

You really are a champion mate – and although the slowest golfer I’ve ever played with – the one that makes smile each time I think of it.

You’re genuine in some many ways – and so rare.

You and Maz really are very, very special – always have been and always will be.

Love you mate.

Chris.

Phillip Cross

Hi Gavin,

You don't know me but I have heard of you from several friends and colleagues. The story they told me was heartbreaking but your courage, selflessness and resolve are inspirational. Last week, a mutual friend of ours, John Corr, told me that you had set up R U OK day and suggested I get in contact with you. My brother committed suicide last November aged 30. He had battled mental illness for at least 15 years and this took a terrible toll on my mother and father, who put their lives on hold to care for him. For the most part this was a thankless task and we spent much of our time in fear for our own safety and his. His suicide marked the end of a long, hard chapter for both he and us. Hopefully he is at peace now.

R U OK? is a cracking initiative and one which obviously strikes a chord with me personally. I will spread the word amongst family and friends and firmly believe what you have done will live on and make a difference.

I applaud and thank you for what you have done and sincerely wish you and your family peace and happiness.

Best wishes,

Phil

The Ripple Effect

Just a short note to remind you Gav that the RIPPLE EFFECT is an amazing and powerful thing.

I met Maz and your kids with Bec in Laguna and clearly I missed out not meeting you at that time!

The thing is though, that (a bit like Jesus really!!!), extraordinary people come to influence a much bigger circle than they can ever know.

I have followed your journey through Bec and, like lots of others, have been gobsmacked and horrified by it all. Beyond ordinary imagination as far as I am concerned.

What I focus on though, is you and your families courage and humour, honesty and intelligence in the face of the greatest fear we all share. It seems to me, that despite illness, you are continuing to really live every moment of your life in your own best way and that lights the path for all of us.

Many thanks Gav....and believe me my daughter will do what she says.

Carol Oliver

David Benn

Mr Dear Mr Larkin

You have been in my thoughts a lot since Fozzy told me of the diagnosis when we were out surfing one Sunday morning last year. I will never forget the afternoon you came into the shop to buy a diamond for your wife. I seem to remember it was for your 10 year wedding anniversary. I showed you the biggest and best diamonds I had; you were intent on giving Maz the most beautiful stone possible. Unfortunately the most beautiful stone possible was outside your budget so you kicked me in the nuts as hard as you could over the price until I had tears in my eyes and and the diamond was within budget.

I really hope Maz is wearing the diamond and it sparkles as much now as it did that afternoon and I really hope you have enjoyed seeing it on her finger. I have always liked you and enjoyed hearing of your exploits because like the diamond you really sparkled.

Kind regards,

David Benn

Paul Giles

Hey Gavin, it’s been a while, but I’ve followed your journey via updates from PJ and through the RUOK media stories.

Your gung-ho attitude and tremendous spirit would be remarkable under any circumstances, let alone amongst the challenges you have faced.

With my boys I’ll often use the Japanese proverb “Fall down seven times, get up eight” and you have done this double-time.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Gilesy.

Matthew Williams

Dear Biff,

I remember it clearly over 20yrs ago when a quiet young guy from the country walked into the ASX board brokers room and thought whoa...what a zoo! I was particularly struck by a a tall (not huge T) striking looking bloke who was the friendliest of the bunch - Gavin - better known as Biff. I loved your confidence, humour, sporting ability and was downright jealous of your abilities with the...ahem...ladies. Although we've fallen in and out of touch over the last 20 years I've followed your career with interest and I was not surprised to see you make a huge success. You were an inspiration to me back then and remain so now. All the best mate.

Matt (Rowdy) Williams

Sarah Rodrigues

A quiet suburban street in Willoughby, a back door that looked out over a laneway. Across the lane, a family with three boys - Danny, my sometime friend, sometime foe, and his two big brothers, Anthony and Gavin. In the way of many 6 year old girls, I was never sure which of them to foster a crush on and generally opted for the safe (yet still fruitless!) option of all.

Gavin, you, your mum, your dad and your brothers are a big part of my sun-dapppled, frangipani-scented memories of childhood. Cricket in the backyard, icy poles from the corner shop, cordial drunk thirstily after a day at school. Happy days - and I am so glad to know that so many happy days still lay ahead for you after we'd all grown up and moved on. The family you've made sounds incredible and everything you've achieved, huge & admirable. I'm proud to know you, even from long ago and far away.

With much love & smiley memories

Sarah

Tom Keipert

Gav

I have only had the pleasure of knowing you a relatively short while (you may remember Mikey Willesee introduced us at Elanora GC around 6 years ago when I was mistakenly addressing you as Gus through 16 holes until you finally decided that it was time that I extended you the courtesy of acknowledging you with your proper name……I might add I that I was under intense pressure having not won a single hole and I was preparing myself to suffer the indignity of loosing my arse to you 2 clowns who were constantly reminding me of that very fact..... with Mikes choppy swing and high handicap and your countless practice swings it was doing my head in. Throw in the fact that I thought a bloke called Gus was toweling me up only to find out it was really someone called Gavin was all too much for young bloke from Mel to take!)

From that day onward I found myself asking Mike “when can we play golf with that big Gav bloke again he is hilarious and terrific value?” You are one of those rare and delightful people you meet later in your life that you thoroughly enjoy hanging out with no matter how infrequently it is or what the circumstance. For us it was normally at an impracticably early 645am tee off at NSW GC on a Saturday morning having enjoyed the benefits of about 2 hours sleep, thankfully you were old school and appreciated my youthful exuberance…………albeit you had often had played the first 2 holes before I caught you having been a tad late for the tee off

You are a true gentlemen with a genuine warmth, sincerity and positive life perspective that is unique.

You have put up a magnificent fight as only you could ………….I am going to miss you heaps mate

Lots of love big fella

Tommy

Matt Graham

El Guapo, you are an absolute legend I can honestly say I shared the best trip of my life time with you “1999 Rugby World Cup” not only did we win I found a great mate in you, when everyone else went back to London you were the only one that stayed with me and I will never forget you for that, not to mention you are one of my few mates I can really talk to on a deep level. What about the night we had in Laguna!! If it wasn’t for you we would have been in the crab shack with screaming kids, takes an Aussie to show a local American how to eat, drink and dance!! I have some photos of that night that you have never seen attached enjoy buddy, I’m sure it will put a smile on your face, it was a big one!! Guap’s, I love our lunches and what you have to say, I look up to you mate and, always have and am so happy to know you and I am not afraid to tell you how much I love you champ, I sure you know that. Actually by now it might be freaking you out a bit? Love to you and Maz and the kids from the Count Grazuaskas, the Countess and the countlings. Love you buddy Matty

Helen Dainton

Well you walked into the room, Maz's new man! " the one from the East" we all looked, talked a lot, and you listened, we were both very privileged to be part of the same group of mates, your love of food, good wine and a decent conversation made us all a team. We had hilarious weekends at the Hunter, Copa & in the snow fields where always the nights were long.....

Mark & I were married in April 95 at Balmoral, and how were we all to know how our futures would unravel from here, you had the biggest shock in your world, and instead of being sorry for yourself, you turned this very personal tragedy into a national campaign. We will always ask RU OK?

Mark & I would like to thank you for your non judgemental support for both of us during a very stressful time, and somehow, on that Sunday afternoon at Bobbin Head, surrounded by my 'family' my world seem to align, you have shown such tremendous strength, humanity and humility and have shown many of us how to be humble. I promise you, I will always try and look at things with a positive edge!

We have so much love for you all, our eldest children are only 3 months apart - the big kids.... we will always be there for your beautiful family, and they will be able to teach us so much , we talk about your achievements with pride and all that pride is richly deserved.

I'm so glad you were the man from the East, naughty, on those nights at Metropolis..... hilarious & funny.

Gavin Larkin - I am honoured to have you as a friend.

Love to you all,

Hellman, Mark, Olivia & Angus

Paul Manning

G'day Biff ,

My thoughts have been with for a very long time. Thoughts of the Bravest bloke I know , thoughts of a Great Family man and thoughts of how you stay so positive in the worst time possible. You are an Inspiration mate. We've known each other for a long time from the Floor days , social events and even Boxing at the stadium , which I could never keep up with you. I often talk to my kids Brooke and Ben about you and your courageous fight against this terrible disease. Your close mates like John Corr and Cookie have been wonderful in keeping us in touch with your fight. The 2 articles in the Telegraph again showed me how strong a human being you are. I will do all I can to help with the R U OK Day on the 15th of Sep from now and always.

You are one Brave man Biff. Now and Forever. My prayers are with you .

God Bless you and your Family.

Paul.

Louise Woodbury

I’ll never forget the day you walked into my life – a man on a mission, a man with a purpose and a man with a huge heart. It has been such a pleasure walking with you in this latter part of your journey. You inspire us, you challenge us and we are forever grateful for your friendship. Our wish is for you to know what a difference you have made to this world. You are one incredible human being.

With much love to you, Maz, Gus, Josie and Van

Louise & William

Jo Wagstaff

Gav, Mike C passed on an email to me today. I didnt know. As I sit here and write to you my heart aches. And the tears roll. Such a deep ache and a sense of "I dont understand why'. I have not known you well but you had such grace and warmth from the moment I met you and you did all your could to support me, while I was trying to work out (yet again!) what I wanted to do with my career. And I was someone you did not even know. You were one of those people who believed in me at a time in my life when I did not really believe in myself. Thank you. My heart goes out to you and your family. Blessing to you and your big smile and your very kind and big heart. And blessing to your family.

With love

Jo Wagstaff

Marie-Claire Davis

Dear Gavin,

I regret not having taken advantage of the opportunities I've had to get to know you better.

On those occasions I have been in your presence, however, I have been struck by your profound appreciation of, and love for others, without expecting anything in return.

You are someone who others are inspired by and attempt to emulate (myself included) - Thank you.

Congratulations on everything you have achieved and continue to achieve, particularly your beautiful partnership and family with Maz, and important mental health legacy.

Thank you again.

Love,

Marie-Claire

Penny & Leon

Dear Gav and Maz, and family,

What an amazing example of a family you all are. The journey you have been on would have bowled most of over in a couple months, you have given us strength and shown us courage that is beyond description, a Larkin to the core Gav, you picked up the baton when Baz let it go, you dealt with grief and loss after his death by looking into yourself and gaining a lot more insight than he had in many ways . Tom wrote to our us saying that he would take a part of us with him and that there would always be a part of him that stays within all of us. I know now that is true . I know I am angry, I dont feel it's ok that you all have had to deal with so much, however I also know you have given us all a part of yourself that nothing can take away. I have said from the beginning of this journey that it's too hard and too painful to imagine what its been like for Maz and yourself and your children, and your extended family,I feel inadequate in expressing how you have all shown such courage and unity, and love. Maz you are are champion, not only as Gavs partner and Mother to the kids , but also in your genuineness, and warmth .You make any room light up when when enter. I am so sad.

We send lots and lots love to you all- Penny and Leon xxxxxx

Janneke Thurlow

Janneke Thurlow

Gav and Maz,

It's always hard to know how to start these messages of love, I've been sitting here for 10 minutes pondering.

I'll start by taking you back to when I began work experience at Singleton's, over a decade ago now. I had just turned 17. These are the memories I have of it.

I remember feeling so nervous walking into your office, I felt young and ignorant and incredibly shy. But you have a way of making people feel very welcomed. I remember your big, gorgeous and warm personality throughout that week. I also remember that all you can eat spaghetti place, that cute guy that worked for you (Can't remember his name? Ryan maybe?), and the other cute one, Mark Tesoriero. I remember walking past this dark room full of people glued to their computers, it turned out to be the graphic design room. I swore to myself I would never work in there. I remember the agency meeting to watch the ads that had recently been made, that was a point where I thought I would love to work here.

I also had a huge crush on you (sorry Maz!)

I was talking about yesterday to mum and my brother, Jordan. I was describing you to Jordan because he didn't think he had met you. I was saying, "You would remember him if you met him. He is tall, handsome and very charismatic." I looked over to mum who was nodding away.

Gav, you're a gorgeous person. You have achieved so much in your life, you are what people strive to be. You will be sorely missed, but you have also given people many beautiful memories. The foundation you have set up will give enduring support to those who need it. You're an incredible man.

Maryanne, I've never met you but it was so nice to see photos of you and your three beautiful children. I can only imagine the heartache you are going through. You sound like an incredibly strong woman and my thoughts are with you. Gav is lucky to have a tight family. He is lucky to have you.

I don't want to be one of those people who goes on and on, so I'll sign of now ;-)

My love, love, love is with all of you.

Janneke Thurlow.

The Parker Family

Big Fella

I have always been in awe of your stamina. I think back to golf weekends with the boys and the very late nights. I remember your belligerent refusal to sleep, topped off by a denial that you were dusty, followed by great golf play and claiming the beloved Green Jacket. Franky, it pissed me and some others off off that we’d have a relatively fair night’s sleep, yet every year we would be left far, far behind on the golf course. It has turned me off the game for life.

Over recent times Alicia and I have been in awe of your attitude. We have followed every punch in your fight so far and we often wonder if our family could have been as strong as you, Maz and the kids in similar circumstances. Your family has set an incredibly high benchmark. You should all be so proud of each other.

All our love to you, Maz, Gus, Josie and Van

Luke, Alicia, Max, Tilly and Lucia Parker

Veronica Bittendorfer

Gav

I was great to see you the other day. Your courage and positivity through the last 18 months or so has been truly inspirational. I know I really should take a leaf out of your book and I will! I can promise you that. You probably don’t realise how many people you have touched in so many different ways. I loved looking through the photos and had a good laugh at the early photo of you and Maz when you first met. You both had SO much hair! Those were the days, so many great memories!

Our thoughts are constantly with you and we hope you have wonderful cherished family time. We know you will be enjoying every moment. You know we will always be there to love and support Maz and the kids.

Lots of love to you

Ron and Clem x

The Cohn Family

Paul Dunne

Gav – just wanted to say how endearing I thought it was when you used to call me Mr. Garrison from South Park. Fortunately, it was a nickname that never stuck. Probably until now...

Thinking of you mate. Paul.

The Cohn Family

Dearest Maryanne and Gavin,

Steve, the girls and I have wanted to write to you for the past few days. Through tears and laughter, we have compiled a list of our favorite memories of our time with all of you and especially with Gavin.

After crying ourselves to sleep last Thursday after reading your e-mail, Steve an I woke up talking about Gav.

We clearly remembered the following:

-Hanging out with you family our last summer together in LB at your home. We had an amazing dinner from the BBQ. We talked and drank wine. The kids played. All of us danced and we talked some more. There was an amazing sound track all night long as Gav always made sure that there was music. We talked about Gav's photography and looked through the photo albums. Steve and Gav "disappeared" for a little while. Hmmmm.... The kids fell asleep on your bed and we carried ours to the car to go home.

-Steve and I reminisced about how Gav totally knew every answer to our American trivia questions the night of your going away party. We remember how much he loves America and he blew away the list of questions.

-Steve remembers running on the beach with Gav and how he is one person who could always go further and faster than he himself ever did.

-Abby remembers asking Gus for an Australian coin and he didn't want to part with it. Gav came to her rescue and gave her one.

-Molly remembers running in the very deep, very cold snow outside the condo in Big Sky with Gav and all of the kids. He is always willing to play!

-Steve remembers gong to the top of Big Sky with Gav when it was way below zero in pretty hairy conditions. Gav, of course, pushed him and they worked their way down the treachery of the mountain.

-I remember following Gav down anything on the mountain - even if I shouldn't have! Gav always hung out and helped me with so much patience.

-I remember stopping at Costco in Bozeman and shopping for our trip before heading up the mountain. I remember Gavin hunting through CD's and buying at least 20 as the the storm outside got worse! Whenever I hear Alicia Keys "No one" I think of you, Gav.

-Abby remembers Gavin sneaking the granola bars in the shopping cart at Costco when I told her no!

-Steve loves how Gavin always talks to his children and other's kids respectfully and compassionately.

- I love seeing Gavin show Maryanne so much love openly. He compliments her and totally adores her - a true example of unconditional love!

There are so many more memories, but we want you to feel our love and hugs across the sea. You are constantly in our hearts. How we wish we could be there to smother all of you. WE are glad you are home in each others' arms.

We love all of you so much.

Jac, Steve, Abby and Molly

We'll send photos in the next post!

Rob Currie

Gav,

Mate – I’ll never forget those times working at SOM in the office next door from you on the chook and Pizza Hut – working late – brawling with creatives and smashing through the work with a beer and music going. You picked it all up so quickly – didn’t surprise me that you went on to bigger things.

You are one of true good guys out there Gav -

All of the Currie family are thinking of you right now – every day – take care.

Rob

Kim King

Gav,

Hello my fellow “outlaw”. You “Own” this situation. You have worked very hard to set up what is important to you - R U Ok day and of course always absolutely loving and looking after your beautiful family and friends. You are inspirational and are still managing to make such a difference – even from your bed. This difference that you are making will not stop. You should be proud. You might be down – but you will never be out Gav! Love always Kimbo xx

Jo Sellars

Dear Unit,

As far as I am concerned you will always be that massive10ft tall brick wall of belligerent NSW supporting concrete I first met 12 years ago when I joined Singleton Ogilvy and Mather.

I have always said I was blessed to work in the ad game, mostly because of the characters and personalities I have had the chance to meet along the way, who have inspired, pushed, and enhanced my life in so many ways. Those first few Years at Singos, being part of the Pizza Hut KFC team with you and the other bongos were some of the best of my working life, and which I always look back on fondly. For some reason, I always felt like I had joined a very loud, dysfunctional, yet highly functional family, of which you were a big part.

Gav you have always been so much larger than life in my thoughts, somebody who was always so passionate about the things he cared about (if the NSW Origin team had even a quarter of your will to win and heart, they would be a vague match for the mighty Maroons), someone who would never give in (annoyingly) and someone who’s always made me laugh my head off.

Your journey over the last year has been heartbreaking and the way you are going through it is nothing short of inspiring…. the spirit, heart, guts and determination you have shown, if I didn’t know better, I’d think you were a Queenslander. And you know that’s the greatest compliment I could ever give.

Thinking of you with love and supporting you all the way,

Sellars xxxx