Jane Basset

Hi Coogee Bear

I bet you haven’t heard that nick-name in a while. Al and I didn’t get to see you as much we would have liked, being the other end of the country and all, but we always have extremely fond memories of when you Aya, and Del used to stay with us in Perth. I remember Alex and I were really excited to meet these cousins from Sydney that we had never seen before. We sure did have some fun. I remember we were around ten or eleven and were on strict instructions to go to bed while the folks were out to dinner. But no, you dared us all to stay up and watch a B-Grade horror flick called “The Robe”. We were all ended up having to sleep in the same room with the torch under the bedcovers. In the middle of the night, we heard a noise and peeked out the door of the room to investigate. By coincidence Barry was walking around the house at 1am in the darkness with a long red towel around his waist, which happened to be the same colour as “The Robe”. I just remember us all screaming like banshees and bashing into each other in the dark as we ran around in circles trying to escape from the “The Robe”. Barry went ape at all the noise we were making.

You also introduced us to that game of champions, Dutch Ovens... The object of the game was to see who is the first person to pass out. You challenged me to a game while Alex and Danny looked on in horror. You declared yourself the winner, but I distinctly remember making your eyes roll back in your head…but you wouldn’t admit it. Dutch Ovens was just the beginning for you it seems, as a person with great tenacity you went onto bigger challenges and refused to let things knock you down.

A lot of people say “Life is too Short” and people always have regrets of what they should have done and should have said……. but the thing is Life is Enduring and you will always have fond memories that bring a smile to your face, or there is always someone that you have influenced in some way who will pick up where you left off…… and so it goes on.

I couldn’t find any photos of when we were younger, but here is a photo of me and my new husband Daren, Alex and a friend of ours.

Take care, and all the best to Maz and the kids xxxxx

Chris and Mel Sims

Dear Gav,

the Zoot family arrived today in Zagreb, Croatia.. we are halfway through our European vacation. ( bit like the Griswald's.. I feel more like Clark every day!). We have conquered London, Brugge, Brussels, Amsterdam, Berlin, Vienna, and are now heading south as far as Dubrovnik, before turning west and heading back eventually to France for the start of the school year.

I'm not sure if you have ever done much travelling with kids..I find it frustrating...I have to constantly remind myself that I have to see the world through their eyes, not mine..As a result, we see very little Rembrandt, but a mighty lot of ice cream and souvenir shops, where in the latter they appear to be obsessed with key rings.. Why this should be so.. is completely beyond me, as none of them have any keys! Yet every town we enter, they make a beeline for the first souvenir shop they find... and we proceed to buy more and more key rings. I think my wife has something to do with it all as she tells me they will have a collection at the end of the trip.. All I can see is that I will wake up one day and all my keys will be gone.. artfully disengaged by skilful little fingers, and distributed on to their prized key ring collection.

Reading your blog, I've been touched by the words and thoughts of so many people from all over the world. One of the postings I read turned out to be from my next door neighbour in St. Ives, John Giro, who knows you through RUOK. Some would say that's an amazing co-incidence, but I rather suspect it says more about the huge number of people who you've either helped, or call you a mate.

I'd like to say thankyou for being a huge part of the tour for over 20 years.. The memories are very special. A huge thankyou for all your work in organising the Hawaii tour, it was a fantastic tour that I will never forget, particularly that gorilla of a course where I lost the shield.. Koolau..a beautiful approach from Dick, only a metre short of the green.. but drilled oh so deep into that soft yellow sand..

You will live on in my memory, and in others.. in check pants, timing the ball to perfection, with a magnificent follow through..You have played the game of life very well Gav Larkin. I hope one day, to be as good a dad as you have been to your family.

All my thoughts and love are with you and your family at this time.

Zoot.

Lucie Janouskova

“You are about to meet this great, handsome, funny, and very, very, very (!) smart bloke!!”

I still remember this sentence David told me before meeting you for the first time in your Brandshop office in 2007. When I was walking down the little streets in Paddington, instead of focusing onwhat I needed to talk about at the meeting, the sentence was playing on a loop in my head, over and over again… (luckily I knew enough of Aussie slang to understand what ‘bloke’ meant).

Minutes later I understood that David was right, indeed.

This meeting, which resulted in introduction to your creative director and recommendation to Yello brand design, was a door for me to get my first job in Australia in the industry I wanted and it got me the important working visa so that I could stay in Oz with beloved David. I was always very grateful for the advice you gave me then. Not just about the branding industry, which was the purpose of the meeting, but more importantly, about really working hard and deserving great results, and having the willpower to achieve what one believes in and desires.

I remembered it many times since, each time I needed to add a little humbleness into my attitude (this resulted in way too many overtimes but hey, the job was well done!) and also when I needed moreINSPIRATION. I think this would be for me the word that describes you, Gav – an inspiring person. I have seen you on several occasions during my time in Sydney, and although our chats were usually quite brief (as everybody wanted to speak to you so kept jumping in!), it was obvious that you truly are an inspiring husband, inspiring father, inspiring friend and inspiring boss.

When I lived with David, we always talked of you with high regards. In fact, the first time I heard of Gavin was when I still lived in Prague, Dave was on the phone to me, raving about the Brandshop summer party with people all dressed in white! I knew about Gav, his awesome wife Maz (and their friends Wags and Stu) long before I arrived to Oz. It meant nothing to me at the time and I admit, only later on I understood that you guys certainly were worth mentioning to someone on the other side of the globe.

That is where I am now; back in Prague. The difference is, I now know Gav and his loving wife. So I now speak to my European friends about you and I am the one to say “Gav, that great, handsome, funny, and very, very, very (!) smart bloke!!” I speak to people about some Aussie guy, whose inspiration has no boundaries and is not limited by time...

I feel terribly sorry for what you and your family are going through, and my prayers are with you, Maz, the kids, the whole family and friends. I send you all a virtual, but very sincere hug. God bless you all.

Thank you Gavin.

Lucie, Prague

Kelsey Bonnell

Hi Gav,

I heard you were going home soon.......too soon for all our liking. We've missed out on getting to know our cousins who lived in the east. We do have fond memories though of whenever you guys visited. My mum (Colleen) always had a soft spot for your dad and talked a lot about his visits when they were all younger. From reading all the blogs, you and your family are very cherished and very loved, which can only be a reflection of who you are as people. My brother Scott passed away two years ago and we didn't get a chance to say goodbye, so I feel blessed that I am able to send you and your family our love.

Okay now the photos..... I dragged them up from the vault and you will be please to know that not only does this prove your had hair, style, grace (and are you under-age drinking?) but the real good news is volley's are back !!! Your brother's don't miss out on the fashion parade either ! If you look closely at the group photo you can see your good self (of course), Del, Aya and Baz right at the back.

Gav you are in our thoughts mate, love Kelsey xxx

Michelle Wood

gav

i hope you truly understand what a shiny light you are

i hope you are comfortable and at peace

i hope you have no regrets

i hope you are soaking up all the love being thrown your way

i hope you know that you have gifted the world with your presence

i hope for miracles

i hope you know i love you

xoxox

mich

Breezey and Stackey

Dear Gav,

I have always admired you in so many ways, especially when the Vaughans/Larkins have a family dinner. You know how big and noisy they can be where you have to put your hand up just to say something. But not you Gav, you always captivate everyone with your charisma,spirit, humour and stories. You hold everyone's attention in the palm of your hand and make everyone feel as if you are just talking to them one on one.

Over the last 13 years Gav, I have seen you blossom into the most amazing Farther I have seen . I see so much of you in Josie especially, Josie and you are like two peas in a pod. The spirit you both share is amazing/beautiful.

We love you gave, You have included Mum and I in your family and I cant thank you enough.

Mum and I think of you everyday.

Love

Breezey and Stackey

Vicki Aristidopoulos

Gav,

You are fierce. One of the most emotive people I have ever met. The rawness and the passion you inject in everything you say and do inspires action. There’s no in-between, it’s full throttle with you Gav.

Every conversation was intense and it mattered. Forget banal chit chat, it’s straight to the heart. Gav you’re a fighter. I applaud your courage. You’ve taught me to fight for what I believe in and that’s lead us to have so many great and heated debates. Fire in the belly stuff. Always I will be grateful for those debates, they taught me so much. You are gracious in defeat and it would be fair to say that you don’t mind a little attention and praise when you do win.

And boy, do you like to win. Gav, the outpouring of love, stories and sentiments I have read shows how much you’ve won. A winner in the hearts and minds of so many people who are touched by your friendship, your ability to cut through and make a difference.

R U Ok. What an amazing movement you started. A revolution inspired through your courage and openness to share your experience with the world and make a difference in the lives of so many.

I smile thinking how much I always loved your gossip girl moments in the corridor of the agency playing cupid with all the single people. Genuinely hoping they would find true love and the depth of friendship you share with the love of your life Maz.

You’re in my thoughts, now and always.

Vicki

Veronica Webber

Hi Gav - it's Ronny ;-)

You seem to consume my thoughts these days Gav, from the time I open my eyes to the last thought of the day.

We haven't spent a lot of time together in the past in deep & meaningful's or even general conversation one on one mainly because when we've come together we are usually surrounded by our big family/s.

It's times like now that the true value of family (& friends) really comes home eh?

The last time we met up was at Leigh's 30th on the roof at Bondi on a balmy spring afternoon, remember? That afternoon I had an overwhelming urge to give you a big hug & I'm sure you were asking yourself "what is crazy Ronny on?"!! Looking back I'm am so glad I gave into that urge. It was just so good to see you that day looking your old self plus beer in hand after the rugged months of treatment prior.

It meant an awful lot to me when you & Maz flew up for John's funeral. I also realised at that time the loss you had experienced with your dad Gav. Well you can be sure he would be extremely proud of you & of all your amazing achievements & especially your role as a dedicated & loving husband & dad to your gorgeous Maz, Gus, Josie & Van. It will be family & friends loving & supporting them into the future.

We all have our journey's to travel in this life. I'm very grateful that mine included you!

Love you Gav

Ronny xo

P.S. Still feel bad about your poor bonsai I managed to kill!!

Stu Gregor

I was going to start with something along the lines that this is hard to write but the sheer ineptitude of writing that would be breathtaking, this is not hard, its letters on a keyboard – what you guys are going through is hard.

I’ve long fancied myself as a writer, it comes easy, wine columns in seven minutes was my speciality – I distinctly remember Gav coming over to my place five or six years ago when I was putting together one of my last wine guides and seeing his eyes light up at the 150 odd bottles of wine opened and ready for his consumption. Like a kid in a candy store – and I swear to god he took 50 bottles back with him in the car – right now I’m hoping he didn’t drive but I’m sure he did.

I’m not Gav’s oldest mate or his best mate, circumstances dictate that those relationships are formed much earlier than when we met but I am a good mate and like everyone else at the moment feeling confusion, despair and anger in equal measure. It’s just shit what you, Maz, Gus and the family have been forced to endure, its just so bloody hard to see what good will come from this. RUOK is I suppose a beacon of hope, an initiative so important, so so valuable and it just seems so bloody incongruous that this was created at the edge of this horrible medical precipice. But long may it survive and prosper. What a wonderful legacy.

If RUOK has any single message it’s for blokes like us to share our feelings, to be prepared to be vulnerable and to really give a shit about our mates. It’s hard . . but it’s really not that hard.

So I guess Gav might teach us to be better blokes, he is a good enough bloke himself but to leave a society more aware and more caring is a legacy to which we could all aspire but most will not reach. Like many of us blokes I will miss Gav at lunch, Gav on the golf course, Gav offering forthright, no-nonsense opinions on EVERYTHING, Gav watching the footy, Gav on the drink. I don’t know much about Gav the father or Gav the husband but their hearts must be breaking. The Gregor family sends all its love and affection.

Stu, Sal, Aud and George.

Ben Atuell

Hey Gav, you were my new friend at a new school.. it was 1982 and we were instant close mates, 14 / 15. You knew all the girls names, had them rated, and made up merciless names for almost everyone (I was mockingly "Action Man" or "a Spokesmodel"). Too much cryingly funny stuff to mention: your insane impression of winning an Olympic walking race: powering to the line, double pumping overhead claim at the finish; in a "Happy Days" moment we double dated the Wood twins (hi Dani and Michelle); you bought me a fully laminated "licence to get high" (where did you get that?) complete with photo and no expiry date... still partially in use. I got a job at McDonalds so you jumped out of my wardrobe in the uniform including Hamburgler necklace pen, paying out on me brutally - I quit (thanks). You always sported cutting edge 80's fashion on our forays into the night - adolescents, stupid with excitement hunting the unknown. Amazing fun and good times ..you always had an appetite.

Gav, your friendship was highly demanding but you loved your buddies like family. Sure footed when I was self-conscious, you were always fearless, made your shortcomings into nothings, backed yourself beyond expectation and made it work. Commitment - no excuses. Qualities you've lived by. We all shared initial adventures on our pathway to manhood - only we know - you can't replicate that.

Then the real stuff; love, family, hard work, loss, more challenges, rewards and pitfalls.. all dealt with in your inimitable style and with outlandish humour. You and your family have been dealt some painful blows lately and my heart goes out. I've shed tears... I'll give the lovely Maz a hug when I see her next.

We've kind of missed the last 20 years of each other, but now it seems in your post-corporate ascetic period you've become a teacher and convener for human good - an exemplar of truths and a compass to many.. I'm full of admiration mate, you've found a way to live gracefully, and you've become an amazing man Gavin. Good on you for showing the way to others and demonstrating rare and pure ways of being.

I love you.

Ben.

Leigh Webber

Gavin,

I have been having these dreams where we are talking to each other- I keep telling you that I am thinking of you. I am thinking of you. Thinking positive thoughts and of good times shared.

Leigh

Andrew Walsh

Gav

I remember your first day as MD at Y&R Sydney.

Your welcome speech was funny, inspiring and spoke of a brighter future for the business.

You defined your management style by reciting a two word poem by Muhammad Ali:

"Me, we".

You went on to prove - to those who listened - this approach worked, everyday.

They were great days to be in the business, and looking back, I know they will stay a special memory.

Your also introduced 'Gav's Wheel of Fun' to monday morning role call.

Each week, someone delivered a short presentation on something inspiring.

Then they spun the wheel, won a prize.

Trouble was, most of the prizes were dodgy client freebies sourced by account service.

But there was one great prize - and I won it.

Dinner for two at Aqua Dining.

I kept it quiet from my wife and surprised her on our anniversary.

So thanks for the brownie points - I think I'm still spending them!

Gav, reading this blog your special talent is obvious.

It shows how you've helped people, from many walks of life, find their passion and lead better lives.

How one man can make a difference.

How to you, 'me', will always mean, 'we'.

With love

Walshy

Tim Dwyer

Gav,

Thank you for being a friend who always wanted to see others have fun, do their best and participate fully in life. It is this passion, openness and no nonsense drive that inspires us to make the most of every moment when we are together. Thank you for all the laughs and good times and for sharing your life with us. I will miss you.

Thank you for making the Classic what it is today. Your energy and passion for a great event which brings mates together is second to none. You are leaving a tradition which will endure until the last of us is standing. I know that you will be with us in spirit each year and we will toast your presence in all our hearts.

You are a legend and a champion who I'm grateful to have had the pleasure to know. I know that your love for your family and friends will last for all our life times as you have shone so bright and have had such a lasting impact.

Our loving thoughts are now with you and your family.

All our Love

Tim, Jacquie, Phoebe and Thomas

Ron & Cyndi Taylor

Hey Gav

It's wonderful to see that you, Maryanne & the kids are surrounded by such respect, love & caring.

Whilst Cyndi & I have not seen you as much as we used to in the SOM days, we want you to know you've been very much in our thoughts of recent times.

From reading the contributions to this blog you should take great comfort & indeed satisfaction, that you have touched so many people's lives from so many walks of life and in so many different ways.

Working at SOM, the famous SOM bar, the Lakes Golf Course, & forgive me, your infamous slow putting, the Bondi – Bronte run, everyone has their own memories.

I would like to say here, and I know I speak for so many people who know you that, in your darkest moments, you and Maryanne are an absolute inspiration to all of us.

RUOK Day is a brilliant & much needed initiative, and it is a true legacy to you & a constant reminder to all of us of a challenge you faced with such bravery.

I'm sure there will be many bottles of varying fluids emptied all around the world each year on that day to serve as a lasting memory for those who know you, and I for one, will play my part.

I know we will all make sure it continues to be a success.

Be proud & fly high mate – it is an honour to know you.

Ron & Cyndi Taylor

Terry Ellsmore

I am sorry the following is not as spontaneous as I would like it to be. I seem to have lost any gift of the quill.

A Few Memories of My Godson

Holding you as a baby during your baptism at Rose Bay Catholic Church. You were heavy (over 10 lbs.)happy and healthy. You didn't cry over the font.

Watching Anthony, a friend and yourself play test cricket matches in the backyard at Stanley Street, where I think your front teeth sometimes acted as the stumps. These matches went for days and I think you guys wrote down official scores.

Entertaining you in Canada for several weeks when you were eleven. We scoured the countryside of British Columbia in search of snow so you could have a ski with John Weisner. After a long car journey (where you managed to get Ryan and Shannon

to sing the Oscar Meyer Weiner song a few hundred times) we were finally successful at Mr. Baker.

On the sidelines at St. Ive's football grounds with "you know who" barracking loudly as you scored about 6 tries in 6 minutes. There were high hopes for later greatness in rugby. Your speed came from Maureen.

Glancing around one Christmas at Bronte and noticing the whole extended family decked out head to toe in Bait clothing.

Maz and yourself beating Ardis and I narrowly (curses!) in mixed doubles at the Catholic Club in Coffs. You are a very stylish player with a great serve. We also enjoyed quite a few games at the Clovelly courts and Belrose. I relied on your errors.

Your wedding which was super. Prince Charles and Diana in Uncle Leslie's Rolls Royce. Maz was stunning.

You, "holding court", a little like your Dad used to at many of the functions we've attended over the years. You inherited his charisma with your personality and sense of fun.

Our surprise drop in visit when you were living in Laguna. Gave us a "kick". Richard couldn't believe it when we woke him up.

What a memorable day I had with you at the rugby, being treated as a VIP.

The phone message re Gus about correcting his golf swing when he was only several months old. Very humorous!''

Always presenting a friendly, positive and thoughtful personality to the world. Lots of empathy.

BEING A GREAT ALL-ROUNDER.

We're somewhat in the same boat, but I've really taken quite a bit of inspiration and example from the way you've handled your far worsening situation. Lots of love and admiration from your godfather, Terry

Thinking of you and your family always,

Uncle Terry

Adam Ashe

Gav,

Here I sit at 1 am on the other side of the globe, after a few beers, a few schnapps, and a few wines...a great crayfish party here in Sweden....as they always are....and my thoughts as they do everyday/night go back to you and your family......we, myself and my girls, Ebba(9)Lily(7)Romy(2) and Josefin, whilst on the annual pilgrimage to Sweden, have been reading the incredible array of words that have been written for you, about you, to you and your family....we are, as most have said before us, in awe.

It is not that we are necessarily in awe of your determination and strength, or Gus's...it is the words of support, wisdom and inspiration that you have been able to accumulate even under the darkest of clouds that you all find yourselves currently.....the generousity shown you and your family.....myself and my girls have learnt and grown so much by following your families journey....I pass on to you and yours our love and happiness, tears and joy, the things that we share together everyday as we talk, laugh and cry about Gav, Maz and their kids.

Gav, we haven't know each other, as the crow flies, all that long.......its been the odd weekend of something resembling golf (well my weekend anyway!!)...lots of laughs and fun...shitloads of drinks...... and this short period of time brought us all close. I have been very lucky a few times over the years to have been paired with you ( I think thats what its called!?)......you have coached/coaxed me round various courses, and even suggested that i have a jacket in me somewhere??...to the point that you even secured me a couple of extra shots this past classic to have a chance...........just not to be mate sorry!!...not yet!!

Bur Gav whist you'll certainly be missed next year (as you were this time around)...you'll always be with us.......and I'm now resolved to fulfill the prophecy.....there's a green jacket in me ...and I have to get mine before Johnny!!

Mate, lots of love....not just from me, but all of my girls ....we are heartbroken by your story as we read and follow everyday, laughter comes, and tears flow, the thought of our family and your family and the similarities..... but we are equally inspired to do better, work harder, and strive for more as we are overcome by waves of sorrow and happiness.....what an inspiration you have become.....and will continue to be.

All our love...hugs and kisses....Adam, Josefin, Ebba, lily and Romy Ashe.

Ardis Ellsmore

I am sorry the following is not as spontaneous as I would like it to be. I seem to have lost any gift of the quill.

A Few Memories of My Godson

Holding you as a baby during your baptism at Rose Bay Catholic Church. You were heavy (over 10 lbs.)happy and healthy. You didn't cry over the font.

Watching Anthony, a friend and yourself play test cricket matches in the backyard at Stanley Street, where I think your front teeth sometimes acted as the stumps. These matches went for days and I think you guys wrote down official scores.

Entertaining you in Canada for several weeks when you were eleven. We scoured the countryside of British Columbia in search of snow so you could have a ski with John Weisner. After a long car journey (where you managed to get Ryan and Shannon

to sing the Oscar Meyer Weiner song a few hundred times) we were finally successful at Mr. Baker.

On the sidelines at St. Ive's football grounds with "you know who" barracking loudly as you scored about 6 tries in 6 minutes. There were high hopes for later greatness in rugby. Your speed came from Maureen.

Glancing around one Christmas at Bronte and noticing the whole extended family decked out head to toe in Bait clothing.

Maz and yourself beating Ardis and I narrowly (curses!) in mixed doubles at the Catholic Club in Coffs. You are a very stylish player with a great serve. We also enjoyed quite a few games at the Clovelly courts and Belrose. I relied on your errors.

Your wedding which was super. Prince Charles and Diana in Uncle Leslie's Rolls Royce. Maz was stunning.

You, "holding court", a little like your Dad used to at many of the functions we've attended over the years. You inherited his charisma with your personality and sense of fun.

Our surprise drop in visit when you were living in Laguna. Gave us a "kick". Richard couldn't believe it when we woke him up.

What a memorable day I had with you at the rugby, being treated as a VIP.

The phone message re Gus about correcting his golf swing when he was only several months old. Very humorous!''

Always presenting a friendly, positive and thoughtful personality to the world. Lots of empathy.

BEING A GREAT ALL-ROUNDER.

We're somewhat in the same boat, but I've really taken quite a bit of inspiration and example from the way you've handled your far worsening situation. Lots of love and admiration from your godfather, Terry

Thinking of you and your family always,

Uncle Terry

Penny Smith

Dear Gav,

I think God chooses extraordinary people to go on extraordinary journeys. Somehow I know you just didn't choose Maryanne because she was beautiful, smart, humorous, generous and extremely loving but also because she was extra ordinary to go on this journey with you. And of course those little Larkins are all a reflection of your match. Gus is just an amazing human being, an inspiration and model to all other humans. Josie a reflection of all the beauty and love inside you both and of course Van the joy and laughter you both bring to the world. I just want you to know you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers every single day.

With Much Love, The Smiths of Laguna Beach

Alex Jensen

Hi Gav

Even though we didn't see you much as a grown up Jane and I have fond memories of you, Aya and Del coming over to Perth on holidays with Barry. I remember you being quiet partial to Baileys Irish cream at a young age, which you introduced us to via Des and Jen's liquor cabinet. I think that might have been the night when Aya had a date over, Jenny Tuttle. We kept calling her Jenny Turtle.

Aya became rather pissed off with us because we all got tipsy and made a bit of a commotion. I was laughing uncontrollably and you and Jane arguing over who had the most skidmarks on their undies.

Del broke his foot during one trip to Perth and would not tell anyone what had happened. It came out later that he had jumped off the Ryan's top floor balcony. I think we had just seen E.T so maybe he was inspired by the flying bike scene, he just didn't have a bike or E.T to help him. You also educated us about Westies and Westie tans.

We always thought you guys were pretty cool.

Unfortunately I don't have any photos of your early holidays to Perth but I have attached a couple (dart board shots) of the family; Mum, Dad, Jane, Kosta, my husband Justy and my daughters Jade and Evie.

Gav, you and your family are in our thoughts. Sending you all our love.

Alex

xxxx

John Parker

Gav,

Every now and then someone comes into your life and leaves an impression that will stay with you for eternity. These people view the world through a different lens. It's a gift they have, and we receive. You truly are one of those people.

I miss picking up the phone and hearing, "Hey Johnny".

Perhaps surprisingly, you are the only person I know that ever called me Johnny. That name is reserved for you!

Thinking of you and the family.

Love always,

Johnny

John, Cheryl & Callum Parker

John Giro

Earlier this year, the proverbial hit the fan in our family after my daughter was ill and then thankfully recovered. I realised my state of mind after the event was very affected.

Having been exposed to RUOK? Day through Gav, I took some steps and went down a path that gave me the strength to reach out when I needed to, and step off the treadmill. Thanks to RUOK? and to you Gav.

I spoke with Gavin around June this year, after I took some time out and we traded stories. At the time, I knew what he shared with me was special. It’s even more so now.

Our conversation flowed to a point where he spoke of how lucky he is to have Maz and the kids. How strong she has been for him and the family. And how much he loves them all. How lucky he is.

How he discovered the real depth of their love, strength, resolve and support. How they all made a conscious choice and aligned their thoughts in only one direction. How Maz’s strength is an inspiration.

It wasn’t hyperbole. It's, as ever from Gav, absolutely from the heart. I remember speaking to Caroline (my wife) about how lucky I am to have someone share their intimate thoughts with me. What a big heart Gavin has.

It is inspirational. It is aspirational. It is, Gavin Larkin.

I know Gav’s inspired many through determination and single mindedness, but I remain most in awe and inspired by Gav’s love for those closest to him.

I have searched for meaning in the last years, and below is something I’d like to share.

In our Western philosophy we perceive time as something that is finite, which once past is forever lost. There is the present, the future yet to happen and the past that we say is gone.

But I prefer how some Eastern cultures consider time. They think of time as a river. While it has a start, a middle and an end, a river exists as all of these three things, at the same time.

If this is true, then are the present, future and even past always happening at the same time?

What was, is Now.

Now, is Now.

What will be, is Now.

Our love to you and all the Larkin’s.

Johnnie G, Caroline and Nina.

Ian Soloman

Gav,

There’s not enough golf stories so I thought I’d share one.

I recall we were drawn in the same group for the Sunday of the Jacket weekend. Unfortunately not in the same pairing, otherwise I might have my name on the shield!

After the usual shenanigans on Saturday night we were one short on the 1st tee. Your partner. No problem you said, I know where to find him and off you drove. 10 minutes later you were back with a half dressed Shonk sound asleep in the passenger seat. Rumour has it you found him at the Bikkie bar. Just a rumour. Much like the Bikkie bar itself.

After you collected his clubs, tied his shoes and put driver, ball and tee in his hand, Shonk decided a couple of hot ones were needed to loosen himself up. It didn’t do much for him … and he still wasn’t loose when he played your ball for the second. Although he did fall out of the cart while in motion.

As the enjoyment of the previous night wore off Shonk became more and more agitated. And hot ones weren’t helping. Nevertheless, you calmly encouraged him, raked his bunker marks, repaired his divots, lined up his putts and collected him from wondering to the wrong hole. You never raised your voice or showed any sign of disappointment throughout the round. Not even when Shonk threw his driver end over end down the cart path or tossed his putter in the lake.

As we finished the round, I remember saying “you are a saint”.

So Saint Gav I will treasure that and many other memories from our golf weekends that you have been so inspirational in developing and energetic in documenting. Your absence will be conspicuous but we will all strive to maintain the tradition that you have been instrumental in building.

You, Maz and the kids are in our thoughts,

Sols and Liz

P.S. Liz wants me to write that you are a spunk – she always thought you were a famous footballer and couldn’t understand how you had maintained your looks. Who did she have you confused with??

P.P.S. Sorry Tim

Mike Zicari

Gav,

It has been a long time since I was lucky enough to spend a bit of time with you. I was invited along for a Classic and you and others welcomed me as though I was part of the crew for a long time. I will make no effort to match the amazing words shared by your many friends. Hard to read and type with tears rolling down your face. To you, I would just say that you have people all around the world, including New York that think about you often. The little I know you, I know that you would be more interested in knowing that my family prays for your wife and kids every night.

Instead I would make an observation for your kids. When you can one day look through all this stuff and see the words spoken about your Dad, I want you to know that making a true impact in life is hard. We can all work hard, make money - go through the motions. Getting it right, leaving a mark, effecting people's lives. That's hard. Doing it in 40 years is almost impossible. By all accounts, your old man is doing just that. He is truly a legend.

This time for you is very personal to me. You all will be in my thoughts. Do me a favor and tell Beth to whisper in Mac's ear to do better at Maths!

Warm Regards.

Mike Zicari

Alan Obrart

Hi Gavin,

This is Alan Obrart here, maybe you remember me, I was a good mate of Barrys, and Maureen, from the mid sixties, at the Beresford road flat, we worked together at Clyde industries, met Peter and Margaret Brennan, then staid close thru his other consulting adventures, till the end, at the Balmoral Beach flat, and the wake party, at Bronte Hotel, Maureen crying on my shoulder after Doug Wrights little speech---we agreed ---neither of us clearly understood the bastard we loved.

What a man, what a mixture, what a very good mate to me,

His stories to me of his childhood, with his dad Tom and was it VI his ex mum ? showed such light on him and what he was,

Anyhow enough of that,

I heard about your R U OK work on the ABC radio, 702, Makka, Sunday morning, Australia all over,

---what fantastic work you are doing----strength to you-----I have no idea if I can help you and your team in any way---volunteering ?

Anyhow, good luck,

Alan Obrart

Per Smith

Gav, as others have said words just don't seem adequate but I would like to share with you a couple of things that bring a smile to my face.

Footy tucker - every recess and lunchtime for years. Of course the masterful Dodd/Larkin -1/2 5/8 combination - was truly a thing to behold. Your Campo goose-step. You were merciless in ribbing me about my unique kicking style - 'booot' (I still maintain that it worked for Mal Meninga, why not me?)

The great delight you took delivering me some good news - the first time a girl 'liked' me at school. The girls and I were then your guests at the Larkin Christmas party at Baz's. Later that night we all went for a swim at the other end of Balmoral we just floating and talking.

You, Mike, Benny and I out on the prowl at Billy the Pigs and The Golden Sheaf. So many times I remember laughing so hard that I couldn't see, and I wasn't quite sure that I would ever stop.

I remember meeting Maz for the first time, we were having a swim at Bronte. I was thinking "she is fantastic", and then seeing in your eyes that she was 'the one'.

One particular summer BBQ with you, Maz, Gus and Josie (Van hadn't made his appearance yet) on the verandah at Clovelly. Good times, so relaxed. The Larkins have a gift making people feel completely at home - truly welcome.

You also need to know Gav, I admire you greatly.

You have treated life with great respect, well most of the time, and you certainly have not taken it for granted. You have dared to dream. More than that, you have made things happen for yourself and those around you. This blog is testament to positivity that comes from being around you. RU OK? is an initiative you should feel immensely proud of. It shows insight, personal courage and leadership to take on what is a tough, insoluble community issue. It will endure.

I love the fact you are prepared to listen to anyone but you don't suffer fools. Life is too precious to waste it on dickheads.

You shown a great appreciation for many things: you really listen to music; you celebrate the joy of eating (and drinking) and you celebrate and share the act (only last Saturday, smashing down a profiterole with toffee - "This is fantastic, where did it come from?").

Most recently you have shown the most incredible courage. Navigating your own illness and also the heavy heart of nursing a sick child. Unbelievable.

Over the years you have shown great trust, generosity and loyalty in our friendship. You have shown me your frailty, and in turn supported me when I was low. I have never been hungry or thirsty in your presence. You have persevered when I have distanced myself. Gav, I am forever thankful for the shared mischief, laughs (so many laughs), advice, dancing, footy and companionship. My life is richer for knowing you.

I love you Gav.

Jack Singleton

Gav

It started with a conversation about The Australian newspaper a couple of

years ago.

You'd just done the new ads for The Australian and I told you I thought they

were pretty good.

You being you, you asked me if the ads were so good that they actually made

me put my hand in my pocket and buy The Australian.

I replied “yes”, and that I usually picked up a copy on Monday - for the

media section - and on Saturday - when I had time to read.

You replied "Not good enough, mate. You need to buy it and read it every

day".

In the weeks and months that followed we'd see each other on the track and

greet each other simply “Every day, mate. Every day.”

If we hadn’t seen each other training for a few days, we’d point out to each

other that there’s little point training only once or twice a week, it

should happen “every day”.

Soon “every day” started to mean a lot more than reading a newspaper or

training.

For me it started to mean that there’s no point doing anything if you’re not

going to do it properly. And for things to be done properly, effort needs to

be put in “every day”. Family. Work. Friends. Training.

“Every day.”

Gav, to me you stand for doing things properly.

It’s not about making a massive all night effort the day before the big

presentation.

It’s not about seeing how fit you can get in two weeks.

It’s not about telling the people you love that you love them once a year on

their birthday or at Christmas.

Life is about the things you do every day.

Thanks for helping me realise that.

Every day, mate.

Every day.

Jack Singleton

Anna Barlas

Hi Gav,

Having worked with you a number of times over the last 10 years at Ogilvy and The Brand Shop, I always remember you for your passion and drive. You were always passionate about our brands and I always felt that you were part of our team helping to drive and grow our business. Your passion also went beyond work and was evident whenever you spoke about your family and your R U OK charity. I saw your story in the newspaper last week and all I can say is that it’s a credit to the great person you are that even when your health is declining you still have passion and drive to keep going.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Love Anna

Michael Briody

Dear Gav,

It's been twenty odd years since I was lucky enough to be invited out to dinner with a group of guys who now hold a special place in my heart.

You were there and the group has been going ever since.

Twenty years sounds like a long time but it passes in the blink of an eye and it is now clear to me that it is not long enough.

You are a great big shining light mate, and the world is a better place for your presence.

It's been an honour and a privilege big man.

Love to you and yours.

Morg's & Bree

Hi Team Larkin,

As we sit here together trying to compose thoughts and sentiments on your life and friendship, we are struck by an overwhelming sense of humility. Humility, that we have been so fortunate to have friends such as you both in our lives. We are in complete awe of your strength, determination, dedication and commitment to every facet of your life together. Thank you for being the people that you are, you inspire us all to be better people.

Gav, it's hard to find words that capture the influence you have had on us. There are so many things you have said and done that will never be forgotten, your devotion to your family, friends and the way you have built R U OK is truly amazing. Not to mention twenty two years of the green jacket, this is a remarkable tradition, your influence and legacy in continuing this will always be cherished.

You are in our thoughts constantly always and forever.

Morg’s & Bree

x

Louise Woodbury

You are truly a man who stands for transforming the lives of others.

Every day in every way you are calling and awakening a new level of communication and what it means to be human: generous and unconditionally giving love to others.

Breathe in the respect that we all have for you & I trust that you are being touched, moved and inspired by your ripple effect in our worlds. Your light shines brightly Gav.

Lisa Klindo

Gorgeous Gav,

Let's face it - you have always been gorgeous but your good looks are far outweighed by your beautiful heart and wicked sense of humour.

Just recently we went O/S and on the plane I was flicking through the comedy programmes. I came across one about Steve Coogan and I remembered ringing Maryanne years ago and ending up talking and laughing with you about The Alan Partridge Project - I couldn't believe anyone else could find it as hilarious as I did - Knowing me, knowing you - ha ha. I also thought about working with you at G.S. when you made your foray into the clothing industry - good old "Bait". Even though it wasn't the success that we all hoped it would be your enthusiasm and drive were so infectious - you made everyone excited about it just by your excitement - that huge grin and twinkling eyes that always hint at a joke just about to burst forth - how could we not all get caught up in your project. This ability to animate people with your positive attitude and enthusiasm is, I'm sure, a large part of why you have been so successful in work and in life - your charisma just draws people in. Your greatest achievement, though, is the beautiful family that you and Maryanne have made together. The true beauty goes much deeper than the surface image - beautiful couple, gorgeous kids - the true beauty of your family is that you and Maryanne are so down to earth and "real" and accept your natural gifts with humility - qualities you have instilled in your kids - willing to admit that nothing is as perfect as it seems but determined to fight for the most important things in life - family, love and friendship. These qualities just make you both just that much more beautiful. I adore Maryanne and am proud to call her one of my dearest friends - I know that you could not have captured such a beautiful heart without being the champion that you are.

Your establishing R U OK? day is yet another testament to your bravery and heart - it is wonderful that you had the guts to admit everyone needs a bit of concern and compassion at some stage and it is a truly important cause that I'm sure will benefit many who otherwise may have fallen through the cracks.

To say that what you and Maryanne and Gus have had to endure over the past eighteen months is cruel and unimaginably unfair is still a vast understatement yet you have all endured with dignity and unbelievable bravery. To know you is a true pleasure, Gav - you are inspirational but more than that you are a wonderful husband and Dad - you should be very proud.

All our love, prayers, hope and positive thoughts to you, Maryanne, Gus, Josie and Van,

xxxxx

Lisa, Peter, Isabella and Luka Klindo

Hugh Jackman

hey gav, i am pretty technically challenged so i hope this gets to you . i have not known you for long, and most of it has been through the internet....but you have inspired me, and like many aussies reminded me not to take our mates wellbeing for granted.

your passion and determination to see things through is extraordinary...you have created a great platform to help everyone in times of need. what a legacy that is. and now to find out you were doing all this whilst fighting a huge battle for your own life is even more extraordinary. it speaks volumes about you mate. if anyone would be excused for being self involved it would be you gav, but no, even now you are focusing all your attention on others. what a wake up call to me, and everyone. what a lesson you are giving. thanks mate. not only for that reminder, but for your ability to galvanise a movement, and still do it with such a sense of humour. it is clear from reading the blog that you are a rich man gav.....with great love from your family and friends surrounding you. now its time to let others look after you.

hugh j

Frances Campbell

Hi Gav!

It's Franny and I'm writing from OOOklahoma! Not even 24 hours from Tulsa I'm actually IN Tulsa! Jenks to be exact. America is certainly an eye opener and I can't help but think of you whenever I see a Taco Bell! I keep thinking about the many things Mary told me about your stay in the U.S. The fabulous halloween outfits and in particular when you visited the Hurst estate. Citizen Kane was such a good movie. Shane and I hired a car in Dallas and we didn't have money for the road toll so I offered the toll girl an Australian $5 (she was very suspicious) I assured her it was worth more than the required $2 U.S. She obviously thought it was a good deal because she took it and after all it was pink, girls like pink! Anyway the temperature is averaging 45 degrees. I was interviewed by Channel 8 in the park by a roving reporter! He said people were wingeing in February about the blizzard and now they are about the heat. What did I think?I said the ground needs rain! I think that we were all so glad when you and Maryanne found each other, she deserved a champion! I don't know how many times I have recounted the story to people, of your proposal to her during Kim & Damian's wedding. The water taxi, champagne waiting n'all! I remember when I was in Sydney once and you and Maryanne took me out to lunch at a cafe in Bondi and I felt so honored and also impressed that you both asked for some pepper from the pepper grinder -which was a new thing back then! We then walked over to Bondi Icebergs for a drink (prior to it being done up) I bought a Bondi Iceberg towel. It was a lovely, lovely time and I will always remember it Thank you!! I think that RUOK is a fabulous concept and I have told many people about it and will continue to. You have managed to articulate something which can effect any of us in isolation. You are obviously a man of considerable depth, feeling and understanding and RUOK is a wonderful gift from you. Gee Gav I can't imagine what you're going through right now but I will continue to pray for you and your truly beautiful little family. One day we'll understand why such difficult things befall us.

God Bless you and ease your pain!

Love Franny xoxo

Tracee Larocca

Gavin –

In my 12 years at Taco Bell, the time spent working for you was my most favorite. From the night I met you in Laguna before your first “interview” with Taco Bell that resulted in you showing up an hour late the next day. (And you still got the job!) To the countless serious meetings when I looked over at you, only to see that you had popped out your front teeth and were smiling at me. To laughing hysterically at jokes that are usually reserved for 14 yr old boys. You taught me so much about how to be a leader and still have fun in the process. You were one of the first to really believe in my abilities and you championed me whenever you had the opportunity. I am so grateful for the time I had to learn from you and I’ve missed you so much since you left. You will always continue to have a warm, cozy place in my fondest memories.

“Tracee, you have poo finger. Everything you touch turns to shit.”

Oh yeah, and the self confidence part. That was good too.

Much love to you and your family.

Tracee

Michael, Carmel, James, Jon, Jared and Oscar

Dear Gavin,

As I read the comments, stories and memories that fill the pages below, I cannot help but notice it is a testament to the person you have become that they all share a common theme – all of us are better people simply for having known you.

I am proud to say it is truly a privilege to know you. You are truly a genuine person, a visionary, who puts ideas into action because they truly believe they can make the world a better place. And you have. You have a loving family, both immediate and extended, who will love and support you until their own memories fade.

Personally, I have always been very close to your loving mum. I was only young when you were first born, and will always think fondly of those years as I grew into a young man, and watched you and Anthony grow from babies in your Mum’s arms, to young men in your own right. From Rose Bay, to Manly Vale, to Chatswood, it was a joy to see you grow into the caring man you are. Michael

Know that you have lived a wonderful and fulfilling life, that has enriched the lives of those around you. Know that your strength and courage over these last few months has been inspirational. Know that you will always live in the hearts of your beautiful wife, and darling children, and family. Know that we love you, so much.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your Maz, Gus, Josie and Van, now and always.

May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

With lasting love, your Uncle Michael, Carmel, James, Jon, Jared and Oscar

Michael Parnell

Hey Gav, I wanted to let you know how great it was catching up with you each time I was in Sydney this year. Twice we went for a walk along the coast. The first time we talked quite and as we got to the surfclub we sat down and kept talking. I remember the conversation, it was very honest, and for me, one I'll remember, At at one point you turned and offered you hand for me to "high five" you, as we spoke about our lives. It's funny how short moments can be so powerful.That one was for me and like all moments of honesty connection and understanding we are never quite the same afterwards. I hope to see you soon as I'm coming back down, and I want to send my thoughts and wishes to Maz and the family.

Gav, thanks also for being able to encourage me, to be a light, even at that time.

Thanks for all the wonderful times and so many laughs too.

Your mate..judge

Carrie Hack

Hi Gavin,

It's been nearly 6 years since I last saw you! I can't go anywhere without seeing or hearing an ad from Taco Bell -- and while most people's reaction is to go grab a burrito, I begin to reminisce about good times in the HFFU room in Socal with an incredible group of very dedicated people :) I learned more and laughed more than on any account I've ever worked on.

We all have dinner with clients and co-workers, but usually it's at a fancy restaurant somewhere. While we certainly had plenty of those, the dinner I remember most was at your house with Maz cooking (can't remember if you helped cook although I remember we had salmon??). The graciousness and generosity that you both showed me by welcoming me into your home was very special and deeply appreciated. I tend to hang on tightly to fond memories and just wanted you to know that you will always have a place in one. Carrie Hack

Louise Woodbury

Hi Gav

Today and always know that you are loved, and a little piece of you is within all of our hearts.

May all of our hearts be open and sending you unlimited and abundant love and blessings today.

Thank YOU for being our blessing.

Caroline Ellsmore

Dear Gavin,

Thanks for being the fine family man you are; for living by principles of compassion and respect; for the courage which is part of your legacy to the whole family.

Love,

Caroline

Jac Mackenzie

Darling Gav!

"Gav", the other half of "Maz and Gav"....

How many times did I write those names together when planning another frozen daqueri night at Karoo or dinner out back in the day. The list was always - Prue and Tim, Ro and Mikey, Maz and Gav etc etc I'd love to do a tally from Prue's diaries! Go right to the source!

There are so many times that come to mind when I think of you Gav. But I'm going to stick to these two, as I keep coming back to them!:

The night you met Maz:

I always had it in my head that I was there the first time you met Maz. Or was this the first night we met "Maz and Gav" !?

This is how I remember it: Veronica, Maz and myself headed out to "Rogues". I'm not sure what night of the week it was but I know it wasn't Tuesday, or we'd have been at "Berlin" and it couldn't have been a Thursday or we'd have been at Minski's. But I do remember all of us being single at the time.

I was watching the dance floor thinking, "Could it get more f-ing crowded??!! Then again, if anyone asks me to dance I'll be able to hide my moves".... when I get the elbow from Veronica. We had a really sound method of 'spunk-spotting', you see. We would point out the spunks in the room by pointing the straw in our drink toward the particular spunk we'd sighted. I remember thinking, "For the love of God, when will Veronica's and my taste ever be one?!" I look back at the dance floor and I see vision of complete hotness - a total spunk with height, hair, huge shoulders and clearly some class - in that black cashmere jumper. I elbowed Veronica and pointed my straw. You'll be pleased to know for about the 1st time ever, we were both on the same Spunk-page. Perving further, we crane our little necks to see who you were with and around turns the bopping be-bobbed head of our darling Maz. Hadn't you spotted her across the room and asked her to dance? Or was it the straw technique? However it happened, I don't remember you guys being apart since. And that was about the only good thing ever to come out of Rogues!

The second thing that keeps coming to mind: Gav the Actor.

Does anyone know of your thespian aspirations? Does anyone know: dude can not only cut the rug at Rogues superbly, but get to the last round auditioning for NIDA? You crack me up. I remember when you said to me you wanted to audition for the NIDA acting course (I'm pretty sure I'd graduated by then) and I offered to help you with your audition pieces - inside knowledge and all. I couldn't believe you said "Yeah, that'd be awesome" Actually, did you call me to ask? However it happened, you wanted help and you were not shy in coming forward for it. 'My lord', I thought 'He clearly means business'.

I know it doesn't seem like that big-of-a-deal, as they say in the more recent classics, but you'd be amazed. People have ideas of doing things but rarely turn the ideas into any kind of action. Probably just park them out the back in Regret Ally. But not you. Not by half! Not before nor since. (Take RUOK, for instance!)

So you showed up with your monologue learned. A very good start. And Gav, you were f'ing good. That, added to your noted hotness, I remember thinking "Jeezus, this could happen. Gav can act. Gav could get into Nida!" and then thinking "Will Maz ever forgive me for helping it to happen!"

Apparently, she was all for it. So we worked the pieces. The comedy piece was a knock-out and when I said "I reckon this will be even funnier if you do your party trick- you know, take out your front teeth!", you said "Yeah, alright." And out they came! Just like that! Didn't we roll around laughing! Now, I've known a lotta actors, before and since, who would never do that - levels of vanity etc, ya know? But not you! And, boy oh boy was it funny! And you got right to the end of the process. Miss'd out on NIDA by a hair. Or was it a tooth? ;-)

You're someone I've always thought will run the last mile in every area of your life. Hard working beyond hard working, brave beyond brave, f'ing pissingly funny, ever hot and a great match for our Maz.

I hope so much all these amazing stories on this blog bring you some laughs and some love and make the hidious pain you must be in, in some small measure, bearable. It's so wonderful to read all the stories. You are one funny bloke! And beaut friend! And ever a true spunk - the Straw has spoken!

We love you Gav. It's been and honour and pleasure and a f'ing laugh. Sending love now and always and if there's anything we can do, let us know!

xxx

Jac and Roxy and my ma and da who send their best.

Lyndal Appleton-Seymour

Hi Gavin and your beautiful family.

I do not know what to say as words could not explain how I feel. We grew up together watching us all get married and having families.

You have given our family so much when Maddy was sick. Remember taking chrissy for a bike ride around the park giving her a break from the hospital (I remember). Growing up with you was fantastic you are exceptional man, I am so glad I dropped in a few months ago to see you , I will always love and remember your beautiful kind heart.. You always where successful in everything you did, You always made me think what is possible.

Thankyou.

LOVE YOU LOVE YOU LOVE YOU AND MAZ AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY

COUS LYNDAL AND FAMILY You inspire me and my family, we dreamed because of you.

Gemma Klamer

To Gavin, Maz, Gus, Josie and Van, I am thinking of you all.

Aunty Veronica let me know that you've got this blog going and since I have a blog too I realise the power of the blogosphere and I wanted to contribute a little something to lift Gav's spirit.

Gavin,

I don't even remember when I met you, whenever it was I must have been small. I still remember gate crashing your wedding with the rest of the Tesoriero's so many years ago. My husband recalls meeting you at Aunty Helen's 40th (must have been not long ago because that old chook does not want to disclose her age) and he still talks about how inspiring you were then. He often says how he wishes he was brave like you to go and live and work overseas. He thinks about what you have achieved in your career and he is motivated by your example.

I want to tell you personally that I have been a huge supporter of RUOK?Day since its inception. I have promoted it heavily on my own facebook page. I believe what you're doing to promote such a vital conversation is divinity in itself. At the recent Blogopolis conference in Melbourne I got to speak to a number of bloggers to pitch to them a collective blogging movement where we can promote RUOK?Day on our blogs and return the links back to RUOK website. I am pretty sure I can pull these people together in your honour and spread your message. I only hope I can do you justice and I will try really hard to achieve this.

Gav, you are an inspiration not only to your family but to many that you don't even know that you have touched and will continue to have an effect on. I pray for you and Maz and the kids often.

My simple words can't express how sad I am for you going through these final days. I don't know what to say that will have any measure or impact that is unique to your well lived life. I just don't and I am so sorry.

With love, light and stars that never stop,

Gemma

Teresa Woodland

Hi Gav,

I think the first time I met you was at Mary n Kev’s all I know is I remember that I was happy Maz had found someone good looking (he he) and then came the killer smile! I love that smile and so lovely to see that your beautiful kids have inherited it especially Gus.

I have often looked to the time when we had finally sold our business and I would have the time to catch up properly with all my family in Sydney and have a bit more depth of conversation with one and all. I will miss having that with you Gav. It seems I have learnt so much about you only in recent times and with RUOK. I love how RUOK promotes more conscious communication rather than the usual, which I’m sure will stay with people all year round. I have been so amazed of all your achievements on many levels. What a big life.

I treasured seeing you guys on your little hols to Byron and think of you every time I pass your Wategoes holiday rentals, mad but true! There was that lovely afternoon when we sat out on your verandah watching an awesome sunset, dolphins included of course, and we had dinner and drank some Grange that your Dad had given you. I’ve been hoping for years that you guys would quit that city life and come up for good, and I could have Van hugs every day, aahh.

I have been told that the Indians of America believe that when a person experiences trauma they loose some of their spirit and so they do a ceremony where they call back the persons spirit by calling the persons name/names. I have been calling your name Gav, I drive down to Wategoes to call you and I know Ronny and Disey have been calling your names too.We wish for you to be in full spirit for your journey ahead.

It was such a privilege minding the kids with Mary while you two had a little dinner out, last time I was down. I had a ball having a bit of time to connect with your gorgeous kids. I still have the Tour of Gus’s collections on my I phone as well as crazy fun with Josie. You are a beautiful Dad Gav, and your kids reflect that. I was feeling so much when it was time to say goodbye that night, but I couldn’t find the words, so I said nothing.

I just want to tell you now, that you are in my heart always and you take up a lot of space, being the ‘big guy’ you are!

Love you Gav, and your amazing Maz and your beautiful family, and everything you have achieved in your life especially your honesty and sharing

The Biggest warmest hug to you Legend.

Treezy xoxoxoxo

Andrew FIndlay

Gav

I have laughed and cried (interesting in an open plan office) in reading the messages people have written for you, Madz and the kids. Each day I have thought about what to write and I found a letter I wrote to you (I hope you don’t mind me sharing it) when you were in the thick of it.

7th May 2010

Gav

I have been meaning to write this for so long but my procrastination (and the challenge of working out how to say what I want to say) has got the better of me.

I can barely comprehend the nature and frequency of thoughts that must be going through your head. Nor can I appreciate the true stress that this is placing on you, Madz and your kids. What I do know is that you are equipped to deal with this Gav. This is not an obstacle on your road – it is your road.

When thinking about what is going on for you, my thoughts always go back to the afternoon we sat around your boardroom table and you told me about the experience you went through with the Landmark Education course you attended. My understanding of you that day increased dramatically from that conversation.

At first I was surprised by the strength of the impact that that course had on you. After all, I had always considered you to be a very capable, in control and confident person. The more I listened to you speak the more I became aware of your very real acknowledgement that there were things in your life that had been out of control, out of alignment with what you felt you were really about. What was defining for me was that you had identified with and embraced these aspects of your life that you wanted to take on. I went to that course on the strength of that conversation that day and it confirmed my fundamental belief that the only control we have in our lives is on how we choose to interact with what is happening around us.

What is happening to you, Madz and the kids is brutal. I know that a lot of your mates are there for you right now. The strength of their support is a reflection of what you have given them over the years – in what you have said and more importantly, what you have done with and for them. You have the strength to deal with what is in front of you Gav. More so in what you have done in the last couple of years in addressing the things in your life that you were not happy with.

I came across two passages about five years ago that I typed out, laminated and stuck in my wallet so I could read and think about them. The first one came from a woman that I met at a week long course that I attended when my Dad was dealing with some of the things in his life that he was not happy with. She said that this was her ‘gift’ to me; something for me to consider in my life. I think that it has relevance to you and the situation that you are in.

“Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will factor in uncertainty as an essential ingredient of my experience. In my willingness to accept uncertainty, solutions will spontaneously emerge out of the problem, out of the confusion, disorder and chaos. The more uncertain things seem to be, the more secure I will feel, because uncertainty is my path to freedom.”

The other is a quote from Ghandi (bad dress sense but seriously in touch with what was going on).

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your actions. Keep your actions positive because your actions become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”

You destiny is to live a happy, full and free life. You are on the road Gav. This is the tough part of it. When it is behind you it will just be one of the many parts of what has made you.

Your acceptance, positivity and integrity is inspirational Gav. You spoke about the need to be present, to get rid of the rackets, to accept the things that were out of your control (in reality the only single thing in your own control is how you respond to what life throws up).

You have nailed it Gav. You are the man you knew you should be – and so much more.

Love Finners

Tom Veidners

Gav,

I first met you in the Board Brokers den of 20 Bond Street - the home of the Board Brokers Den circa 1987. As you will recall, the shed was one of the most demanding workplaces in the country - making sure you arrived by 9:00am (ish) to play a few games of Racing Aces before a tough 2 hours in Outlands, where any minor dozing off was quickly addressed by the almighty "four-by-two" smash delivered by one Stuey Cook!. (Not to mention the wonderful practice of the telephone "pass-arounds" - gold!) Surprisingly, you chose to leave the rigours of the shed for a real job at Potts West before embarking on a successful career in advertising, stopping on the way for a brief foray into fashion - I only recently retired by brown corduroy BAIT shorts!

I can barely do justice to the many wonderful words written about you by your many, many friends - it is testimony to the many lives you have touched. Your story-telling is the stuff of legend and without fail managed to silence the cacophony of noise which accompanied the many Dodgy Vindaloo nights (where is Leo Sayer?), State of Origin and GFs in the early days. I want you to know that (whilst never telling you this before) you have been a massive inspiration to me. I recall the time before you cracked your first advertising role, you brought your notebook to the Dodgy Vs to capture one of the many "out-there" & hilarious moments for possible use at a later stage. As you know, the shed-members gave you mountains of stick about your notebook, but in the face this, you did not put it away timidly - you continued capturing some memorable moments and went on to not only crack, but conquer the world of advertising.

Biff, I will miss your generous spirit, your irreverent sense of humour, your cracking story-telling and most of all, your friendship. Whilst over the years we may not have seen each other often, when we did, it was as though we were catching up from last week - most recently Porteno which was brilliant! I will fondly remember many great times, in particular your Buck's Weekend in Port Stephens and Newcastle and I hope that down the track, you will be able to show me the way to Marathon Stadium!

My love and thoughts are with you, Maz & the family.

Your mate,

Tom ("The Orb") Veidners

Andrew Hankin

Dear Gav,

Nearly 10 years ago when my old man passed away you sent me an email. An email that I’ve kept and read from time to time.

Knowing what it was like to lose a father you told me that ‘although you never really get over it, you do get used to it’

It’s advice that I’ve had to pass on to friends in the 10 years since. Advice that isn’t nice to give but everyone who hears those words instantly understands their meaning. It’s something that gives people strength.

I often think of you and the email you had sent me during a really hard time. And I guess I always will.

Hank

Below is the actual email.

From: "Larkin, Gavin"

Date: Fri, 1 Mar 2002 12:06:30 +1100

To: Andrew Hankin

Subject: Dads

Hank,

Although I didn't know your dad (which from all accounts was my loss) I do know what it is like to lose a dad .

My old man checked out 7 years ago and although you never really get over it ,you do get used to it .

You have my heartfelt sympathy and an open invitation to talk anytime you feel the need .

Stay strong and good luck.

Regards,

Gav

Christina Appleton-Seymour

It’s a special thing to know you have provided and given life to someone.

It’s a special moment when you change someone’s life.

It’s a special occasion when family is brought together

Its special to know everyone you have ever loved has always loved you back.

We always want to say what means most to us but the truth is no one will never really understand the words we feel because they can’t be put into words.

But to know you made someone feel happy, encouraged, appreciated and mostly loved, they will always be eternally grateful and those qualities makes a great person, brother, cousin, son, father and an over all outstanding human being.

Never be sorry for how you lived, never take back the words you choose. You take away with you everything, everyone and all the pieces of your life, I no it’s hard to smile and it will never make sense but you fought and did all you could and now have the people you never let down standing beside you with all the memories you made together. Thankyou for being you ☺ all my love chrisitina.

Peter Koller

Peter (Pepsi) Koller here , well while I was pretty early on the scene (1987) I obviously wasn’t in the cool group , just hanging with my great mates Slim Deal and Slipper Dick Tour in front of the BHP post , I did feel very privileged to have caught up with some of the gang for the dinner at Porteno on Cleveland St recently. In essence I just couldn’t believe your attitude and on subsequent investigation into your life, in the say 20 year gap, I am gob smacked still , at what you have fitted in – talk about four/five lives in one mate!

It was also a special to have given you a lift home (because we both live in the East) in my partner’s little Toyota with all the marketing advertising for KY Gel. You were extremely brave getting into that car with another beautiful “gay” (hell knows that’s what everyone driving by was thinking) man. Many wouldn’t and haven’t including Cookie (He's always been the shy & retiring type). We really did have a good ol' chat on the way back to Clovelly and I’ll remember that always.

My thoughts are with you and your family Gav.

Peter Koller.

Angus Parsons

Dear Gav,

25 years have passed so quickly…seems like just yesterday you strolled onto the trading floor at the ASX. On behalf of a few of the boys I’d thought I’d remember some of the good times – like the curry nights. Not sure how they started but it sure forged a special bond between us all. Some great memories and laughs that your own “band of brothers” will never forget. Cook, Roy, the Commodore, Evans, Orb, the Judge & Briody to name but a few… I am privileged to have been a part of it. Your seat at the table can never be filled Gav. The mad bucks weekend up at Horizons playing golf and the dinner at the Brewery – not to mention the bus with the” tiled floor” for the ride home. You and Maz coming up to Killcare with me that weekend so long ago – you had only just met yet were so comfortable together. While our lives may have taken different paths you shall always be a true friend, a pillar and a rock in every sense of the word. The values and principles you have lived by Gav and especially your “encourage all, judge none” attitude was something we can all learn from.

My thoughts are with you, Maz and your children.

Your friend Angus (Muffy) Parsons.

Susan Montano

Dear Gavin-

What a pleasure it was to have you BLAST onto the scene at Taco Bell - HOT,

HILARIOUS and HARDWORKING!! You named us BCT and got busy immediately

making changes and pissing people off! It was AWESOME! You united us as a

team and we are all stronger for it. You absolutely made a difference in

the ads and our lives!

I still have the framed 8x10 black and white glossy picture of YOU - given

to each of us at our holiday gathering in 2002! Honestly, I can't remember

if you gave them to us as Christmas gifts or if Shawn really did it and

"framed" you. So many good times - made even funnier by the fact that half

the time we couldn't even understand WTF you were saying!

I loved meeting Maz, Gus & Josey and spending time with all of you in the

beautiful home you created in Laguna Beach.

I'm so sorry this is happening - sending lots of love to you, Maz and the

children.

xoxo

Felsen

Fiona Byrne

Gav,

I remember meeting you for the first time and thinking 'damn, that's a fine looking man'. To describe you (very tall, big and bald) conjures up images of Uncle fester but the reality is more like David Beckham. I was delighted to discover you were not only beautiful on the outside but you had a heart, soul and personality to match.

You’re passionate, kind and generous with everyone and in every aspect of your life. It's inspiring just to be around you.

Every time I say the word 'budget' I will always think of you mimicking me in that dreadful Irish accent of yours.

You believed in me and trusted me when I wasn't sure I was up to the job. After the SOCO meeting you were officially my hero (still a career highlight for me). The fact that you cared more for your staff than the dollars speaks volumes about your character.

Your support and guidance have helped me get to where I am today and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. You were honestly the best boss I’ve ever had (don’t tell Rob I said that).

I adore you, everything you stand for, how you’ve chosen to live your life and how, in this unimaginable circumstance you still continue to give. I'm so sad and angry and I don't understand why things have turned out this way but I guess I’m not supposed to, faith is a gift as they say.

Thinking of you and your family

Lots of love

Fi xxx

Adam Searle

Dear Gav.

We haven’t always seen eye-to-eye (considering you’re six-foot seven and I’m four-foot nothing doesn’t help), yeah we’ve had our ups and downs, but I would be lying if I said I didn’t always have a lot of warm feeling and genuine regard for you.

From the moment you marched into our precious agency world one day (the world many of us had strived for years to get into) typical Gav, skivvy- wearing & full of one-liners. You just breezed in and took it all by the scruff of the neck. With your trademark wide smile you were confident, funny, witty...and I have to admit it, many times right. Actually I’ve never seen anyone take to a business like that and master it so swiftly, and I don’t think I ever will. Like all of the Singo’s crew, a ton of water has been under the bridge. We’ve had many a night on the turps. Momentous wins. Lots of laughs. A few losses...and a couple of stinky barneys. All part of the fun.

Yes back then we were bullet-proof and we thought it would never end. Its so unfair.

As I look down at my sleeping daughter’s peaceful face,I now know what it is that you have achieved in my eyes, gaining my respect beyond words. Gav you have gallantly led your beautiful family through unimaginable perils and kept smiling...for them. You should be proud of what you have achieved, as you must know so many of us are of you. Gav you are a hero to many people and your kids will grow up knowing that. I know mine will. Lots of love and our thoughts are with you and your family.

Adam, Lizz, Orlando & Zoé Searle XXxx